College and WLS
Hi everyone! I'm new to OH and this forum, and since I'm finishing up my senior year in college, I have a question to ask those of you who may have been in my shoes before. Now most of my friends are skinny/average, and I was wondering how to approach the subject of my upcoming WLS. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
i, as well, am a senior in college and had my surgery in July. I didnt really have a problem telling my firends but i didnt want to be yelling it from a rooftop either. I told my close friends, stright up. They knew i had always struggled with my weight and they have watched me fail at diet after diet. I knew they would understand and support me and they did but i was sure to have all the facts for them so they would understand it was the right choice for me and it wasnt the ":easy way out". For everyone else... my "friends" - people i had classes with or would see every now and then- i didnt bother telling before hand. Since surgery though ive had several of those people comment and ask how im losing so much and then i tell them about the surgery. Good luck with everything :)
-Courtney
*3 months and 67 lbs down :)
www.myspace.com/lookitscourt
-Courtney
*3 months and 67 lbs down :)
www.myspace.com/lookitscourt
Ya know... I didn't tell anyone until a month after my surgery. I didn't think I was blessed to have friends that would truly understand. Now, I know I could have spilled the beans a bit early, but that's the past :)
Telling about your surgery is a personal decision; there are still some I don't tell and I'm three years out! lol The great friends are going to be supportive, the cruddy ones will leave you in the dust- this life and social change seperates the girls from the women.
Good luck!
Telling about your surgery is a personal decision; there are still some I don't tell and I'm three years out! lol The great friends are going to be supportive, the cruddy ones will leave you in the dust- this life and social change seperates the girls from the women.
Good luck!
*~*Jaci*~*
The more things the change, the more they're still the same.
hi, i had surgery in college 2. i won´t recomend that you tell everybody you are gonna have surgery, wait until you have it to tell anyone. `cuz people some time is cruel. and you need to be in great mood to have surgery, and some of them can scare you and say bad things about wls.
i just told my closer friends and family before surgery.
good luck.
mariana.
i just told my closer friends and family before surgery.
good luck.
mariana.
hey,
I'm a senior in college too! when are you having your surgery?
I go to school at University of Miami, which, I'm told, is considered one of the best looking female campus' in the country. So I feel ya on the friends thing. I told all/most of my friends, and there were definitely some mixed reactions to it. I think most people will immediately voice their support (which is what I've found) but I'd say a decent amount of them tend to display actions that suggest they feel surgery is "the easy way out" or whatever. Some of my more conservative, vocal, or whatever, friends actually voiced their concerns and tried to encourage me to "just try one more time... if it doesn't work, then you can have surgery." I just took it one friend at a time, and decided who I wanted to tell based on how I was feeling.
In terms of actually bringing up the conversation, it was mostly like I just dropped a bomb. There really was no easing into it. everyone was shocked, except my roommates, who kinda knew the whole way through (like, Im looking at this, Im thinking about this, Im meeting a doctor). It was easier for me to spit out, "I need to tell you something. I'm having weight loss surgery." and deal with the questions as they came.
I think largely the biggest reaction from my friends was suprise that I was even considering it- none of them had any idea that I was really dissatisfied with my weight (DUH- no, I LIKE being 250 lbs on the beach with all of y'all skinny people). once I explained where I really was people were largely accepting, though I found out quickly that your reasoning is often "good" if its for medical reasons and "selfish/bad" if its for social/cosmetic/any other reasons. It's harder for me to seperate it in my mind, but I honestly mostly told people who asked me why that it was medical, and only explained how many factors weigh in if they seemed like they wanted to listen rather than judge. some times though I've had some really great convos because of it, and friends have suprised me with their compassion, encouragement, and allowed me to really get excited for the things to come. that was awesome.
I think in regards to professors and people on the periphery, I decided that I'm just gonna tell them I had my galbladder removed, or that I had abdominal surgery. I had my galbladder taken out a couple of years ago, and the procedure is almost identical in terms of where they cut, what recovery is like, etc. And I'm not sure I want to have that intimate of a discussion with my professors, but rather just let them know that, hey, for the next couple of days Im gonna be a little sore and I probably shouldn't be lifting heavy things and/or doing some of the crazy things I do in some of my classes.
Please please let me know how your processes go, I'm looking forward to joining the losers bench at the end of this month, and I guess I'll see you there soon
Ann
I'm a senior in college too! when are you having your surgery?
I go to school at University of Miami, which, I'm told, is considered one of the best looking female campus' in the country. So I feel ya on the friends thing. I told all/most of my friends, and there were definitely some mixed reactions to it. I think most people will immediately voice their support (which is what I've found) but I'd say a decent amount of them tend to display actions that suggest they feel surgery is "the easy way out" or whatever. Some of my more conservative, vocal, or whatever, friends actually voiced their concerns and tried to encourage me to "just try one more time... if it doesn't work, then you can have surgery." I just took it one friend at a time, and decided who I wanted to tell based on how I was feeling.
In terms of actually bringing up the conversation, it was mostly like I just dropped a bomb. There really was no easing into it. everyone was shocked, except my roommates, who kinda knew the whole way through (like, Im looking at this, Im thinking about this, Im meeting a doctor). It was easier for me to spit out, "I need to tell you something. I'm having weight loss surgery." and deal with the questions as they came.
I think largely the biggest reaction from my friends was suprise that I was even considering it- none of them had any idea that I was really dissatisfied with my weight (DUH- no, I LIKE being 250 lbs on the beach with all of y'all skinny people). once I explained where I really was people were largely accepting, though I found out quickly that your reasoning is often "good" if its for medical reasons and "selfish/bad" if its for social/cosmetic/any other reasons. It's harder for me to seperate it in my mind, but I honestly mostly told people who asked me why that it was medical, and only explained how many factors weigh in if they seemed like they wanted to listen rather than judge. some times though I've had some really great convos because of it, and friends have suprised me with their compassion, encouragement, and allowed me to really get excited for the things to come. that was awesome.
I think in regards to professors and people on the periphery, I decided that I'm just gonna tell them I had my galbladder removed, or that I had abdominal surgery. I had my galbladder taken out a couple of years ago, and the procedure is almost identical in terms of where they cut, what recovery is like, etc. And I'm not sure I want to have that intimate of a discussion with my professors, but rather just let them know that, hey, for the next couple of days Im gonna be a little sore and I probably shouldn't be lifting heavy things and/or doing some of the crazy things I do in some of my classes.
Please please let me know how your processes go, I'm looking forward to joining the losers bench at the end of this month, and I guess I'll see you there soon
Ann
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