OT - skinny friends rant
I posted this to RNY but then figured people in my age range might have a little bit of a different view on it or I dunno, know people in their lives that fit this type of category better? I dunno
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I feel the need to rant about this and for some reason I think only the people here would "get" where I am coming from...maybe
Sorry about the longness
Ok so I have this friend...well not technically friend...she's a friend by aquaintance (one of my best friend's close friends, so I have known her for many years and gone places with her and such). I've only ever gone out just myself and her once, to a night club a few years back. I've often gone out with her and 1 or 2 of my other friends.
Now, my best friend, we'll call her C, and this other girl K.
C is getting married next year, my surgery date will probably end up falling after her wedding. I am to be one of her bridesmaids. So is K. So is C's sister. C's sister, and K are both TINY people...like literally, not exaggeratingly, size 0 and/or 1 (2 at most). I am size 22/24. I weigh more than the 2 of them put together. This is extremely depressing, especially because C wants us all to basically wear the same dresses....we all know too well that dress styles that look good on a size 0 do not look good on a size 24, as well as the other way around.
When I was first out looking with C and K for bridesmaid dress ideas, I was a little hesitant about the styles because I don't want to look like a sack of lard in her wedding photos. I may have looked less than awesome in my own wedding photos, but somehow, in all randomness and against all laws of gravity and clothing, my wedding dress was way more flattering on me than any other dress in the history of ever and I was not wearing a corset or a lace up dress.
I explained my situation (as I figured C might understand because she is about a size 16) where I wanted to agree upon a dress style with her, and that it might be a good idea for everyone to wear the same color, but a different style. K decided this would be a good time to semi-rudely announce that *she* would wear whatever C wanted her to, even if it made her look like a hobo. Aren't you awesome. You're also used to just about anything you put on looking at least half decent. She is one of those people who takes their body size/weight and gets so caught up in it that she thinks she is hot **** Most guys' opinion is that she has an ugly face and an ugly (arrogant) personality. It for some reason makes me that little bit happier to know that she's just caught up in her world of K thinking she's all that, where a lot of other people are like ummm no.
I've since been putting off getting fitted for a dress until December, so I can, I dunno, say I'm going to lose weight (which im pretty sure I won't be able to, but wtf ever). I FEAR being THE fat bridesmaid that you see every so often at weddings. I fear it SO MUCH that I am SO CLOSE to telling C that I don't want to be in her wedding party.
NOW the main point of this rant....
She is pregnant. Her MATERNITY CLOTHES are a SIZE FRIGGIN 4!!!!!!
She has just "announced" and created an event, and invited people to her "100lbs party" because being 4-5 months pregnant, she is FINALLY over 100 lbs. COME ON, SERIOUSLY.
And invited me? Like wtf. Yes, *I* want to come celebrate with you the fact that for the first time in your life you weigh (still less) close to most people. That would be RAD. I so totally want to come with you to a restaurant and hear people make lame fat jokes towards you all night, or you make fat jokes about yourself.
She will have given birth by the time C's wedding comes...and for some reason, I have this inner demon that really wants her to forevermore stay above 100lbs, and she can wallow in the misery of herself seeing that 1 on her weight.
Welcome to my world, minus about 190lbs.
ROAR
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I feel the need to rant about this and for some reason I think only the people here would "get" where I am coming from...maybe
Sorry about the longness
Ok so I have this friend...well not technically friend...she's a friend by aquaintance (one of my best friend's close friends, so I have known her for many years and gone places with her and such). I've only ever gone out just myself and her once, to a night club a few years back. I've often gone out with her and 1 or 2 of my other friends.
Now, my best friend, we'll call her C, and this other girl K.
C is getting married next year, my surgery date will probably end up falling after her wedding. I am to be one of her bridesmaids. So is K. So is C's sister. C's sister, and K are both TINY people...like literally, not exaggeratingly, size 0 and/or 1 (2 at most). I am size 22/24. I weigh more than the 2 of them put together. This is extremely depressing, especially because C wants us all to basically wear the same dresses....we all know too well that dress styles that look good on a size 0 do not look good on a size 24, as well as the other way around.
When I was first out looking with C and K for bridesmaid dress ideas, I was a little hesitant about the styles because I don't want to look like a sack of lard in her wedding photos. I may have looked less than awesome in my own wedding photos, but somehow, in all randomness and against all laws of gravity and clothing, my wedding dress was way more flattering on me than any other dress in the history of ever and I was not wearing a corset or a lace up dress.
I explained my situation (as I figured C might understand because she is about a size 16) where I wanted to agree upon a dress style with her, and that it might be a good idea for everyone to wear the same color, but a different style. K decided this would be a good time to semi-rudely announce that *she* would wear whatever C wanted her to, even if it made her look like a hobo. Aren't you awesome. You're also used to just about anything you put on looking at least half decent. She is one of those people who takes their body size/weight and gets so caught up in it that she thinks she is hot **** Most guys' opinion is that she has an ugly face and an ugly (arrogant) personality. It for some reason makes me that little bit happier to know that she's just caught up in her world of K thinking she's all that, where a lot of other people are like ummm no.
I've since been putting off getting fitted for a dress until December, so I can, I dunno, say I'm going to lose weight (which im pretty sure I won't be able to, but wtf ever). I FEAR being THE fat bridesmaid that you see every so often at weddings. I fear it SO MUCH that I am SO CLOSE to telling C that I don't want to be in her wedding party.
NOW the main point of this rant....
She is pregnant. Her MATERNITY CLOTHES are a SIZE FRIGGIN 4!!!!!!
She has just "announced" and created an event, and invited people to her "100lbs party" because being 4-5 months pregnant, she is FINALLY over 100 lbs. COME ON, SERIOUSLY.
And invited me? Like wtf. Yes, *I* want to come celebrate with you the fact that for the first time in your life you weigh (still less) close to most people. That would be RAD. I so totally want to come with you to a restaurant and hear people make lame fat jokes towards you all night, or you make fat jokes about yourself.
She will have given birth by the time C's wedding comes...and for some reason, I have this inner demon that really wants her to forevermore stay above 100lbs, and she can wallow in the misery of herself seeing that 1 on her weight.
Welcome to my world, minus about 190lbs.
ROAR
I know how you My friend was getting married last year and i could not find a dress that would even fit me. I was so pissed off that i didn't want to be in the wedding. I did not tell my friend that but she end up calling of the wedding and i did not have to deal with it anymore. I would sit down and talk to you friend and tell her she know how it feel to be a bigger girl and that you can be the only one with a different dress but the same color people what care people do it all the time.
I thank god im almost on the other side.
There was a girl from high school that had a baby a couple years ago and she plastered everywhere that she was "over one hundred pounds for the first time" all over her myspace, and how weird it was, and making fun of herself because she was 101lbs. I was just like, well isn't that special. Maybe I should have had an "I'm over 100lbs party" back in 2nd grade. 
All I can say to that 100 Pound Party Girl is 
send the 'lil fatty a big 'ol bag of pork rinds and a congratulations note that says "I hope your new baby looks like a marshmallow."
I know, that's evil, but dang that rudeness just makes me mad!!!! Don't go to the dumb party. Go to the spa instead and treat yourself to a yummy massage that reminds you how strong, beautiful and powerful your body is right now at your current weight.
Then, have an honest conversation with your best friend. If she's truly a BFF, she'll take your feelings to heart and may be able to come up with a solution for you. But I'd definitely leave K's antics out of the discussion. No use pitting one bridesmaid against the other and leaving the bride in the middle. Just tell your BFF that you love her and want to look beautiful for her wedding, but are having dress dilemmas. Remember, this lil' K is not the BFF of the bride. YOU are and you deserve to hold your head up high and walk in that place of honor.
Heather
send the 'lil fatty a big 'ol bag of pork rinds and a congratulations note that says "I hope your new baby looks like a marshmallow."I know, that's evil, but dang that rudeness just makes me mad!!!! Don't go to the dumb party. Go to the spa instead and treat yourself to a yummy massage that reminds you how strong, beautiful and powerful your body is right now at your current weight.
Then, have an honest conversation with your best friend. If she's truly a BFF, she'll take your feelings to heart and may be able to come up with a solution for you. But I'd definitely leave K's antics out of the discussion. No use pitting one bridesmaid against the other and leaving the bride in the middle. Just tell your BFF that you love her and want to look beautiful for her wedding, but are having dress dilemmas. Remember, this lil' K is not the BFF of the bride. YOU are and you deserve to hold your head up high and walk in that place of honor.
Heather
I don't hardly recognize myself or my life anymore!
i know exactly how you feel. think about K as your sister. mine is a 0, 1 on a fat day. she gets all excited for 3 digits on the scale and outside im "good for you yay!" on the inside im "you ******g skinny twig ***** i hate you" 
. but i must be nice to my sister. I agree with Heather. I know it hard to feel good about your body right now. But you are so much better then her and more beautiful in that you aren't the person sitting there bragging about being the **** She mayb skinny but she's uglier then a donkey's ass.
Sorry to be so blunt. But I've been there myself and i have inner ROARs that wanna to come out too. :-)
Abby
. but i must be nice to my sister. I agree with Heather. I know it hard to feel good about your body right now. But you are so much better then her and more beautiful in that you aren't the person sitting there bragging about being the **** She mayb skinny but she's uglier then a donkey's ass.Sorry to be so blunt. But I've been there myself and i have inner ROARs that wanna to come out too. :-)
Abby
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