negativity

So today I had my first negative response to my planned surgery.  I got a phone call from a family member who had just found out, and not from me.  They wanted to know what they could do to talk me out of the surgery, told me i wasn't fat, just a bigger girl, told me that why don't i wait till after i have kids. . . all kinds of things.   It was very frustrating for me, and i tried to be firm and polite.  I also was kind of pissed that I was in that situation to begin with.  I did not tell anyone about this.  I did not want to say anything yet.  I tried to list the reasons why i am doing this, that i am sick of joint pain, that i do not want to be obese my whole life, that I want my pcos to go away, that i do not want to get diabetes, all the health reasons.  I am not looking to be a skinny little girl, I just want to be healthy

Sorry you had to deal with this today.    I had to get a thick skin when it came to talking to people about WLS, everyone has an opinion and a horror story that they can't wait to share.   A lot of times they are simply mis-informed.   Come here and vent, and try to take what they say with a grain of salt, and be confident in your decision for a new healthier you! ~ Leslie

I did not tell anyone about my surgery until I had it because I didn't want to deal with any negative attitudes.  Of course a couple people found out and you just have to let it go in one ear and out the other.  You do not have to defend yourself or your reasons.  You know why you're doing this and it really isn't anyone else's business.  Just try to stay positive and know that we are here to support you!

Sorry...It happens I was VERY selective about who i told at work...my boss (who should have kept this information confidential) told my AVP and my AVP jumped my case and started spewing negative things and holier than thou you can do it just eat less crap...totally messed me up...but I knew I was doing the right thing...It has been so worth it just to put that out of my mind and just plug along...Just think you can prove them wrong!!! Keep your spirits up and just be as informed as possible about everything pre-op and post-op...be a walking dictionary for WLS...You can do it!!!

Hey,

My first negative comment threw me into a tailspin. Just remember, this is the hardest decision that you will ever have to make, and you are doing an amazing thing by deciding to have this surgery.
Once someone told me that having wls surgery was the "easy way out"

If it helps, I've been keeping a blog of my post wls life, if you want to check it out...might help a bit.

mysticsclub.wordpress.com

There is a post called "the easy way out" which is about my reaction to the persons stupid comment.

OOof, the audacity of some people.  I'm gonna tell you something right now that is one of the biggest lessons I've taken away from my WLS journey.  You have the right to set boundaries that will keep you happy, sane and healthy.  YOU CHOOSE.  No one else.  Period.  So the next time someone calls you, questions your choices, demands an explanation, etc, you have the right to say "I'm not going to defend or explain myself to you.  So until you are in my shoes and are capable of making my decisions for me, you can keep your thoughts to yourself."

Own your body.  Own your choices.  Own your dignity and respect.  OWN  not owe.  And don't let that call shake you.  Listen to your own wisdom.

Heather