Advoiding old friends..

Im kinda going crazy... Im a stay at home mom and right now hubby and I are stuck with one car and hes working out of town. I havent seen most of my friends since my wedding day 2 and a half years ago! I got pregnant right after (right after) and since we were really young, my friends really didnt want to have anything to do with me anymore because I was married and pregnant. So I stopped talking with everyone. Well its been a few years and everyone has grown up and are starting to get married and start families of there own and we have started talking again. I still havent seen anyone because I have been advoiding them. I gained alot of weight after giving birth and I really didnt want anyone to see me how I was.
 
Well im now down 50 lbs, im feeling better and looking better, but im still not at the weight I was when I got married and the last time they saw me so im still hiding. I really want to get out there though! Im 22 years old and I want to go out and see old friends.. I dont know if it is because of my weight or if it is just a lonely mommy thing.. or both combined. Im not into parties or clubbin, but to go to dinner or lunch and just talk and have fun would be great. I was always such a girly girl and always looked good even though I was fat, but lately ive been a sweats and t-shirt kinda girl and I dont want anyone to see me like this.. I fit into old jeans and clothes, but at the same time they dont fit the same because of skin issues and such.. YUCK. So.. I still dont feel comfortable with myself just yet.. maybe 20 more lbs I will. Im just stuck because I want out so badly and to be around friends, but I wouldnt feel comfortable either..

When did you stop advoiding friends and finally start feeling better and ready to get out there?

I am sorry but I have never had that issue.  The best advice I can give you is to get out there when you feel comfortable.  Or try going and buying a new outfit that makes you feel really great.

Hey girl well i know exactly how you werer feeling.....

I felt like that at first and still kinda do now...my best advice is get new friends....i mean they are not your friends if they did not support you during your most precious times why would you need them now keep your head up girl.

Ok, as you know I am still pre op, but after my first daughter was born I was in that rut too. I would only wear jeans and a
t shirt. I didn't take any effort into getting fixed up (like my hair or make up), but eventually made it past that. Before you know it you will be back to your old self!

Marie 

The only thing I can say is that losing more weight wont make you more comfortable with yourself - that can only come from the inside... when you lose those 20lbs you may just keep finding something else - I had a friend thats over 6 years out and thats all she keeps saying - I need to lose 5 more pounds, 5 more pounds, I will do XXX when I lose 3lbs, I will go XXX when I lose 5lbs.. she uses her weight as a way to avoid things in life.
You just have to suck it up, if they are your friends then they shouldnt judge you by how much you weigh - either way you had surgery and will be losing the weight.. youve taken the steps to have a life saving surgery and are committing yourself to using your tool to not only lose the weight but keep it off - your friends should be supportive of that, if they are not then they are not worth having as a friend. I say to take the plunge and stop being afraid, Im sure you will find it wont be as bad as you are making it out to be. :-)