My husband said!... Lets have a baby!

I'm only 2 weeks out,and I got my period late, so of course we had to think the "what if's?" of course, and he said that if I was pregnant we would have to get rid of it so that I was able to heal. but my husband also said that any other cir****tances we would have made it work even if we were not ready. 

We were watching television and there was some type of flash back about a kid on the show showing his life time. My husband got all teary, and then told me we should have a baby!....

I was like "Woah?!...and told him okay.

He then replied "3Months"

I asked "why do you say 3 months?" He then replied,"I thought that was the minimum we had to wait?" Then he went out to smoke.

This was very weird to me becuase he has not once said anything about us having a baby. He's always been the type to say, "In 2-3 years honey." I'm completely flattered that he said that, and really would love to take him up on it, but feeling really scared about even thinking about it. I've wanted a baby sense we got together. So this makes me happier than ever.

Thats great Lindsey, just make sure you are healed from your surgery, everyone doctor is different, my doctor told me not to have any kids till I reach my goal weight cause when you have a baby you tend to eat a bit more to be able to give yoru baby the nutrients it needs! Kids are amazing and Im sure you and your husband will be fantastic parents!!

Good Luck!
Kel

aww how cute. maybe next august you guys can start trying, that is if you are both on board.

Well congratulations. If your serious about this I would visit the pregnancy after WLS board on here maybe they can give you advice on when it would be best to plan a pregnancy. Also remember to check with your doctor. Alot of doctors recommend waiting two years because the baby can't get all the nutrients it needs untill then, and to give  you the best possible chance at losing weight.
I hope everything works out as you want it to!

If you got pregnant at this point you would not have to 'get rid of it'... a lot of people get pregnant in the early stages post-op, while it may be more high risk it has been and can be done in most cases.
Its very normal to have messed up cycles post-op... many people experience extra bleeding and/or late periods. It takes time for everything to level out - the massive weight loss releases a lot of hormones into the system causing things to go wack.
If you feel your hubbys comment is weird I would maybe ask about it a little more - why all of a sudden is he wanting a baby? Is he perhaps scared of losing you because you are losing weight and thinks a baby will keep you? Does he think you want a baby and by giving you what you want it will make your relationship better? He knows you just had a surgery where its reccomended that you do not get pregnant for 18 months (typically, or longer) so its odd to bring it up... even if he said he thought it was 3 months how would that even make sense?

I had the same convo with my other half here recently also, although he and I have been discussing children since way back when.  actually one of my reasons for the surgery is to help with conception. anyway, to the point of my post, when I asked my dr about this he said I would need to wait at least a year before trying.  I think I can deal with that, I wouldnt want to risk the life of my child, nor myself. congrats on the hubby coming around. lol

I can tell you right now, I love my daughter, but once I get this weight off, the last thing I want is to get fat again!!! I gained 100 POUNDS when I got prenant. Crazy.

I wonder if he is insecure about you getting thinner and he knows that you being pregnant could potentially hinder your wls success...

3 months?  All I've ever read was min 1 year... It's something I'm looking forward to as well (I have been off B/C for 2 years now, and I am still not pregnant and my husband and I haven't been using any other kind of B/C) but I don't want to ruin either the weight loss process, or the pregnancy, so I can appreciate each in its own.

"If you are a woman of childbearing age, you must not get pregnant within the first 18 months to two years following bariatric surgery. The rapid weight loss and nutritional deficiencies associated with weight-loss surgery make pregnancy very dangerous for you and for a developing fetus. Take special precautions to prevent an unsafe pregnancy, particularly because weight loss after bariatric surgery tends to increase fertility."

as well as on this site's Learn: Life After Weight Loss Surgery section:
"It is strongly advised that women of childbearing age use the most effective forms of birth control during the first 16 to 24 months after weight loss surgery. The added demands pregnancy places on your body and the potential for fetal damage make this a most important requirement."