New Here..... Need Support
Hey My name is Natasha and I have a BMI of 94.... I would really like to hear from people who have either had surgery or have gone thru the same thing... I am so young and scared.... but I need to do this surgery and I want it more than anything... So if there is anyone here who wants to tell me there story and wants to chat please feel free to message me... I need the support....
Hi Natasha, and welcome to OH! My name is Kelly I havent had the surgery yet in the process of getting approved by OHIP which is Canadas health insurance. Anywho...Congrates on making the step to have surgery. Im also scard but this is something I need to do in order to live. I figure if this doesnt happen then I will not see my child get old. You will have all the support you need here at OH. Everyone is so kind and make you feel amazing! So I hope that the start of your new life will be smooth. Keep us posted on everything!
Kel
Kel
Hiya, Natasha. . .
Welcome to the Board! Finding a community of folks that can mutually understand the struggle with morbid obesity is imperative., and you need to congratulate yourself for reaching out to connect. We can help alleviate some of those fears, as well as point you in the direction of helpful resources.
Since you asked about personal stories, I, too, started out SMO. In November 2005, at the age of 27, I had gastric bypass surgery, with a starting weight of 437 lbs. In the following 15 months, I lost around 250 lbs. The three most influential factors in my period of loss was (1) I was in therapy to deal with my food addictions and the emotional upheavels that coincide with experienceing such drastic changes (beginning several months before I had surgery), (2) I was absolute in my strict adherence to diet because I have a propensity to dump and I hated feeling awful, and (3) I began exercising as soon as my body would allow for it. . .walking the dogs initially and progressing in the complexity of workout as I lost more weight.
Learning to put myself first has been a central change. We have a tendency to want to disappear and please everyone else first. The fact that you are looking to regain that power, that position, that state of loving yourself, is remarkable. Be proud of your decisions and continue to connect with others.
~Erin
Welcome to the Board! Finding a community of folks that can mutually understand the struggle with morbid obesity is imperative., and you need to congratulate yourself for reaching out to connect. We can help alleviate some of those fears, as well as point you in the direction of helpful resources.
Since you asked about personal stories, I, too, started out SMO. In November 2005, at the age of 27, I had gastric bypass surgery, with a starting weight of 437 lbs. In the following 15 months, I lost around 250 lbs. The three most influential factors in my period of loss was (1) I was in therapy to deal with my food addictions and the emotional upheavels that coincide with experienceing such drastic changes (beginning several months before I had surgery), (2) I was absolute in my strict adherence to diet because I have a propensity to dump and I hated feeling awful, and (3) I began exercising as soon as my body would allow for it. . .walking the dogs initially and progressing in the complexity of workout as I lost more weight.
Learning to put myself first has been a central change. We have a tendency to want to disappear and please everyone else first. The fact that you are looking to regain that power, that position, that state of loving yourself, is remarkable. Be proud of your decisions and continue to connect with others.
~Erin
Wow thats crazy I understand completly.... I have a tendency to want to disappear and hide because I am tired of people comments.... Then I realized that you know what it doesnt matter what people say and that I need to change myself and this is the only way for me to feel better about myself and but it will be a long Journey and I am ready it will be long but I know I can with all my support from everyone........ I just need to remember to tell myself that if I am 100lbs or 550lbs that I am a beautiful person no matter what anyone has to say and I need to do it for myself and no one else......
I found out so far that this website is a very helpful website so far and everyone he is so nice and makes me feel like I actually found a place that I belong although I know how strange it may sound but I do really mean it......
Thank you so much for sharing your story I appreciate and please keep in touch and I will do the same....
I found out so far that this website is a very helpful website so far and everyone he is so nice and makes me feel like I actually found a place that I belong although I know how strange it may sound but I do really mean it......
Thank you so much for sharing your story I appreciate and please keep in touch and I will do the same....
Natasha:
The most disconcerting, while inherent, contributor to taking control of your life is finally accepting that absolutley no one is more important to you than you. You are your body. You are your psyche. You are your feelings of hurt, pain, disconnect. . .but, you are also your feelings of joy, self-love, satisfaction, pride, jubilation, brilliance. . . When we live in a bodies that greatly hinder our abilities to take part in the world that others can take for granted, we began to forget that we matter. We allow for others to define who we are, and this diminshes our sense of value and purpose.
This is your life to take back. Be proud, and learn as much as you can. Be prepared as best as you can. Take advantage of as many support groups as you can. Find a therapist in your area who works with addiction, particularly food addictions, and body image, if possible. As someone else responded, it is not just about having THE surgery; this is about taking the optimal path for you that includes a surgery that will lead to drastic changes in your lifestyle, how you feel about yourself, how you re-learn to cope, how you re-learn to partkae in your world. You want to find a surgeon that sees WLS as the initial step, not the final product.
Take care and keep in touch.
~Erin
The most disconcerting, while inherent, contributor to taking control of your life is finally accepting that absolutley no one is more important to you than you. You are your body. You are your psyche. You are your feelings of hurt, pain, disconnect. . .but, you are also your feelings of joy, self-love, satisfaction, pride, jubilation, brilliance. . . When we live in a bodies that greatly hinder our abilities to take part in the world that others can take for granted, we began to forget that we matter. We allow for others to define who we are, and this diminshes our sense of value and purpose.
This is your life to take back. Be proud, and learn as much as you can. Be prepared as best as you can. Take advantage of as many support groups as you can. Find a therapist in your area who works with addiction, particularly food addictions, and body image, if possible. As someone else responded, it is not just about having THE surgery; this is about taking the optimal path for you that includes a surgery that will lead to drastic changes in your lifestyle, how you feel about yourself, how you re-learn to cope, how you re-learn to partkae in your world. You want to find a surgeon that sees WLS as the initial step, not the final product.
Take care and keep in touch.
~Erin
Hi Natasha,
I know what it is like to be scared about having this surgery. I denied needing it for almost 5 years before I realized that it would be the best thing for me. I am almost 2 months out and I know that this is one of the best decisions that I have ever made in my life. Make sure that you have the support and willingness to do this and it will work for you.
I know what it is like to be scared about having this surgery. I denied needing it for almost 5 years before I realized that it would be the best thing for me. I am almost 2 months out and I know that this is one of the best decisions that I have ever made in my life. Make sure that you have the support and willingness to do this and it will work for you.
Rachel
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