Question about dating after WLS and Stretch marks.

Can't tell you anything about the strech marks...

Instead of telling a first date you lost wieght from doing weigh****chers, could you just tell the truth and say that you strictly monitor how much food you eat and limit food to a certain # of calories/volume per day?  That way, you're not lying, but when it becomes obvious their could be a relationship with the guy, you can elaborate on the "why" you eat such small portions? 

Just my personal opinion on how you could handle it...

OK, as far as stretchmarks go I think if there was a sure fire way to get  rid of them, not a lot of people would have them. After I had my son and before I really started putting on the weight I alread yhad a lot on my stomach and back area and I tried everything except for laser treatmments which from what I understand only make a slight difference, but have you already had a tummy tuck bc I know the surgeons usually try to remove as much of them with the skin as they can.

  As far as the dating goes I dont see anything wrong with telling them weigh****chers in the beginning and being honest if you develop an actual relationship I think most mature men would understand that it is very personal and not something you'd want to tell righ toff the bat, but I think ifg you meet someone you really like and can trust you should tell them so they understand your life and history better, but I dont think that it is something that needs to be told right away not even in the forst 6 months or so.  I myself told everyone I know , but  If  I meet a guy thats out of my circle of friends once Im much thinner I certainly wouldnt give that info up on a first or second date. hope any of this rant helps

            Brianna

First off..congrats on everything. 
When it comes to telling a guy about your weight loss, you'll just know. I'm not open about it at all. I'm not sure WHAT I am going to tell people. They'll have to notice my weight loss....I would hope!  What really matters is that you feel great about yourself.
    When dating, you will eventually talk about weigh****chers. EVERYONE knows how hard weight loss is. If things get serious, TELL him what you are saying right now. Tell him the truth. SAY that you don't want him to think you are not honest. SAY that you waited because you wanted a serious relationship, and now it's serious. He'll focus on that. Tell him how it has changed you. He'll focus on having the new and improved you. The confident, honest and beautiful (inside and out) you. 
     As for the breast lift / reduction...Been there, Done that!  It was the best thing I could have done for myself. (well, until now!)  I know you feel like Frankenstien's monster, but the scars really fade over time.  You can barely see the scars around the areola. 
---Get a product called Mederma. It's a cream for scars and for stretch marks.  From personal experience: I would use it on the scar going "down" from the areola and on the scar under the breast, once you have healed. Those haven't faded as much.  --Hope that's not too personal.   Mederma's a bit expensive.  My plastic surgeon reccomended it and he said he uses it on stretch marks, too. The only catch: use it every day, even more than once if you can remember.  He said you CAN'T put it on too much.

I hope all this helps. Good luck!