Terrible of me...

Monday I was online and my ex-bf popped up as being online.. we broke up 4 years ago and have not spoken in 3 years or so... I had forgotten he was even still on my buddy list because he has had me blocked for a long time... so needless to say I was suprised to see the name come up. Today at work I was checking email and he popped up again so curosity kills the cat right? I check up to see if I can find any pictures/info... see whats going on etc... so I find some pictures he has posted of himself.... he got fat... and he has a bad haircut. There are also pictures of what I assume to be his girlfriend - funny that she looks like I use to... chunky with very short dark hair (but I was way better looking of course lol).  Either way I am sitting here smirking that after all this time has passed I have gotten better and he, well, has gotten 'worse'.  Horrible way to think but Im sure some of you can agree... its always lovely to run across an ex, or an ex-friend, or somebody you went to HS with that gave you a rough time and see that they've only gotten worse over time. Its also strange how many of my ex's have gotten fatter as time passed, I guess subconciously I use to pick men with eating problems even if they didnt 'show' it at the time?? A guy I dated briefly in HS (who after made my life miserable!) is now *huge*, a good 150lbs more (if not 200lbs) than he weighed back then...,  another guy I dated in my late teens/early 20s was chunky when I was with him is now a good 100lbs heavier, the ex I mentioned above is about 80lbs heavier than when we were together. My current BF has put on some weight since we've been together but thats from him eating all my leftovers... I better warn him if we ever break up hes going to get fatter too!  Better them than me thou!

So what's terrible of you?

I'd say that's pretty normal to feel...you worked your ass off for it!

I don't really think it is so terrible. i understand where you're coming from, I've caught myself experiencing / noticing the same thing recently, but it's not really my fault that I decided to do something drastic about my obesity and some other's haven't. My wife gets on my case all the time because I tend to categorize overweight people that I see as candidates for WLS or not candidates. It's kind of like an inside joke. She'll say "wow I can't believe how so and so has let themselves go" and I'll just say "yeah, she's definitely a candidate" or "she'll be a candidate soon" LOL...kind of funny but terrible of me at the same time, huh? If I believed in Karma, then I guess I would be setting myself up to be a candidate for revision down the road, huh?

Are you kidding me? I can't wait for that day to come (and i'm not normally a vengeful person) all those people that treated me differently for being fat are going to eat their words.... one day or another. You worked so hard for this day! live it up. just don't get mean

I can totally relate.  Like, a very ex friend is getting married in a week and I see that she didn't lose weight like she wanted to before her wedding.  And her fabric softner is giving her a rash.  And I am laughing because for all the crap she put me though, that shizz is FUNNY!  lol  And then I feel a teeny bit bad, but only a teeny. Of course, I was 275 when I got married and refuse to get my wedding pics developed because I don't want to see them so I've no room to talk on that point.  Heh

Nah, it's really not terrible...  I am gracious to all the b*tches who made my life a living H-LL cuz now I look better than all of them LOL LOL LOL LOL.    Ok so I couldn't resist that one and my husband saw that and says I need to be nice.   They weren't nice to me, so there.  Anywho... we all know we worked hard for this, even if other people think we took the "easy way out".  Do I hear an AMEN? PS... Most of my exs got fat (or fatter) too, Jennifer.  I think it's a trend or something haha.