Scared....HELP!

So I got approved 2 weeks ago and I was so excited....then they started scheduling my appointments.....and I freaked out and didn't go to them. I started thinking what the hell am I doing? Is it really worth it? Am I sure I can't do this on my own? Am I just lazy? They aren't gonna operate on my brain and make me not like food anymore. I am so scared and confused. I read all of your posts and think how happy all of you are and you say you would do it again and its worth it. I guess I just think about never being able to eat a bite of cake on my B-day again or not being able to enjoy and ice cream cone for the first time with my child (when I have one). Are these real fears or just things I am saying to myself to psych myself out? I want to be healthy in the worst way, but I wonder if I have done everything I can do to make that happen without surgery. I need some advice.

I think it's normal to freak out a little bit after you are first approved...which surgery were you approved for?  If you are worried about the sugars, look into the DS...I can eat sugars with my surgery as I don't have dumping or anything like that.  Maybe look into it if you want.  I also know a lot of RNY people who can have bites of sugar, so you can eat sugar again, just not in the huge quantities that we used to....so you could have a BITE of cake or a couple bites of ice cream...it's not like you'll NEVER have it again.  Lower sugar or sugar free ice creams are actually pretty good!!!  

I'm glad to hear its normal, I just never heard anyone discuss it before. I feel like I am being ungrateful for the opportunity I have been given. I was approved for RNY. I have thought about the DS but my surgeon doesn't do them. I just need to hear that people feel like it was a great decision for them and how happy they are now.

It was the best decision I've ever made in my life...sure it wasn't easy at first, but my life now is SO much better...I can do things I couldn't do before surgery....fit in an airplane seat, ride rollercoasters, jog, hike....I have so much more energy......I'd do it again in a heartbeat and feel like a whole new person.  I won't say it wasn't hard at all....things still come up, like being self concious with loose skin, body dysmorphia issues, feeling sick if you eat the wrong things, but all of this stuff can be worked on with a psychologist or through support groups.  I just feel much healthier and know I will lead a fuller and longer life now....hope that helps some!   Don't be discouraged!!!  Just remember, you deserve this!!!

Hey!  You're completely normal... I had RNY and I can eat sugar, I can drink things other than water- all in moderation.  If I do eat too many cookies (etc), I get uber tired and pass out for half an hour- no matter where I am or what I'm doing, something I deal with.  Ice Cream is tricky, but its doable in tiny amounts. Its hard at first, but you'll adjust and not miss it as much as you think you will...  You are not lazy, you ARE worth it. Call your docs back and reschedule those appointments, chicky :)

Your feelings and apprehension are perfectly normal. You will have to make some adjustments after surgery, but you will be able to eat things like cake or ice cream in moderation after WLS. Don't worry about all of the things you won't be able to do (as much) like eating sugary sweets, but think about what you'll gain! You'll be healthier and will be able to be more actively involved with your child. Have you attended any support groups in your area? Many include both pre-op and post-op patients and I'm sure they would all have great words of advice for you as well.

Thank you all so much for your encouraging words. I have rescheduled my appointments. I have my nutrition class on Wednesday, my endoscopy on Thursday and I go in the hospital for my baseline research(I am in a research study) on Sunday until Tuesday.  So i get my date by Tuesday. We will see. Thank you all again.

Those fears are perfectly normal. I asked myself the same questions especially when People would come out with their "half thier size" issue.  I dont have RNY so I cant really comment on the whole eating and dumping... but if you are afraid of that maybe you should look into the lapband if you havent already, thats one of the reasons why i choose lapband bc I was afraid of the dumping and sugar intake.    Don't worry you should take all the time that you need to make this decision.

Just FYI, only about 40% of RNY patients actually dump on sugar.  Of course, there's no way of knowing if you'll be one of them, and most of us avoid sugar anyway because we absorb it completely and it sabotages weight loss.  BUT, like the others have said, it is possible to have cake on your b-day or an ice cream cone with your future kids in moderation.  You know, a few bites not a big ol' honkin piece like we used to eat =) In fact, my son's b-day is on Friday and I plan to split a cupcake with someone (no icing though...)  It will be the first time I'll eat something like that since surgery but it's a one time thing, not like I'll be doing it every day.  Build it into your daily calories and you'll be fine.