Any Advice

Okay so with out going to into to much detail.... i need some advice. Okay so as some may know i am still 18 an i still live at home. The other day when i came home my dad had to get my tire out of my car because it blew. then he preceded to search through my car and found my box of condoms. Well needless  to say my dad went balistic on me. he grounded me untill graduation which is 3 months away.  My mom an dad are both freaking out. they keep yelling at me. I dont know how to talk to them  with out getting into an argument. my stepmom agrees that they are overreacting. i want my dad to  unground me. Any advice on what to do? What would you do if you were in my situation. the more  my dad tries to control me the farther he is pushing me away. i keep telling my stepmom that if he  doesnt back down as soon as i graduate i am moving out and never talking to my dad again.

Sit down with you father and ask him to have an adult discussion with you since you both are adults - ask him his reason for grounding you... do not accept "because" or "because I said so" or "because I can"... make sure to listen and not interrupt and try and understand his POV. I am not sure his reasons or what he will say... but Im sure some of it has to do with the fact that you are his 'little girl' and the thought of you having sex is just too much to handle. You can always be his little girl but you are 18 years out and legally an adult... also Im sure you are capable of making your own decisions. If its more religion or moral related, again, you are still an adult and able to make your own decisions. No matter what... while your father may not agree with your decision to have sex, he has no right to ground you because he found condoms (and *assuming* you are having sex). If anything he should be happy that you are using condoms and practicing safe sex. While he may pull the old "under my roof my rules" type thing its really not something IMO that he can ground you for. I would explain to him how you feel about his actions and the fact it is isolating you and pushing you away from him, let him know anything else you may feel - like how you feel you cannot talk/confide to him about certain things because of his reaction to finding a simple box of condoms.

I ve tried everything an all it has done has gotten my car an my cell phone taken away.  the funny thing is my dad has never been a parent to me. my stepmom has raised me an always disiplined me. He didnt start trying to be a parent to me untill january when he found out i got a tattoo. If i dont get out of my house i am likely to try and committ suicide again, thats how unhappy i  am. i need help but i have nowhere to turn.

Yes he is being very unfair considering that your 18 and of age of consent. Now from a parents point of view, you will never understand until you have kids of your own and trust me you probley hear that from your parents all the time and you get tired of hearing it, I know I did.  My boys are little but I think if i ever found them with condoms even at 18 I would probley freak out too and I am very open minded. It is more of the you dont want your kids to grow up kinda thing. I tell my boys if they show it to a girl before they are 30 it will fall off and I tell my oldest one (he is 3) that girls have cooties. I know it is wrong but I honestly would be totally heartbroken if one of my boys came in at 18 or 19 and told me they got someone pregnant. Yes they would be adults but thats not how parents think, you will always be that little girl in his eyes and he doesnt want to face the fact that your growing up.  The day I had my first son things were great and as soon as they handed him to me to hold, I started crying and I looked my parents in the face and apologized for everything I had ever done growing up.

If u wanna quickly get out of the situation....u could always say they arent urs. They could belong to one of ur girl friends....and she didnt want her parents freaking out so she left them in ur car. IDK if u already admitted they were urs. and if u did...u can always say that atleast u are practicing SAFE sex...which congrats that u are! haha. im not that much older than u....and i think id be more embarrased then anything if my dad foiund me with condoms...but as for grounding u.....its a dad being a dad. that is his way of tryin to protect u! although u may hate him right now....im almost 99% postive u will look back an thank him! could u imagin having a baby right now?! {i know alot of people do an all the power to them for raising them at such a young age...} but let me tell u...if i had a kid at 18 i dont know what i would have done! He is just trying to prevent that from happening and he feels as though if ur grounded then u cant be put in that predicament. It sucks....im sure! but hows this....if ur dad died tomorrow ud be so mad at urself for being so angry and mean to him. So try to just deal with it the best u can. Let me know how things turnd out.