I hate inlaws...a VENT session in progress....hope u have a minute or 2

So if keeping this secret wusnt bad enough stessor in my life....the one person who i thought would always understand is actually the one person who seems to be getting fed up with it  and i know i shouldnt be on the pitty pot at  his time of need but im getting alil upset that ive been put on the back burner it seems. is that selfish?!
To make a LONG story short....his dad was brought to the hospital about a month ago and his liver was found to be worse than before {he has a bad liver but it was watched and kept under control...and no he wusnt and isnt an alcoholic...it wus chemicals he's injested at his work} so he has been in the hospital for a month now....we thought he may die....but instead things took a huge turn around and he is going to be fine. he still needs a transplant but for the moment he is commng home. Now....my wedding shower is on Sat....and this man is playing the pitty card and wants everyone to cater to him and he is basically planning on NOT attending his ONLY childs shower....isnt that DICK!?!?!  i have gotten so annoyed with him babyin his injuries that i have not one ounc of compassion at all for this situation! all i know is that my fiance has ALOT on his plate and im gettin the brunt end of EVERYTHING. if his mom pises him off....i get yelled at. if his dad says he is not feeling well and that he is dyin {yes its THAT bad of a hypocondriac} i get yelled at....THEN follows the appologies that he didnt mean to take it out on me blah blah blah....WELL topping on my cake....i spend my WHOLE entire tuesday my ONLY day off from my 3 jobs....at the hospital...and of course u all know that u get hungry throughout the day....WELL GOD FORBID I HAVE TO EAT....and it gets taken to the "god ur always eating....what wus the point of having the surgery if ur always eating" yes...that comment alone made me walk to the bathroom and ball my eyes out.... 
then comes the "im sorry i didnt mean it like that" blah bla blah....so i didnt eat! not one ******g thing for almost 9hours!!! i swear to u i wanted to eat my left arm!! 
im so tired of dealing with this wedding on my own......dealing with all the families on my own....and trying to juggle EVERYTHING on my own!!! an yet...everyone says the same thing "well his dad needs his attention right now....." BS!!! i need his fukn attention too!!!! and i know they say that the loved ones is who usually gets the brunt end of it....but WTF!!!  now i have to put on a happy face in front of all the families so no one thinks anythings wrong...an its annoying!!! 
::Sighs:: wow that feels good to get it all off my chest!! 

if only i knew u guys wouldnt get bored from reading a hell of alot more then this long note already.....there is jus SOO much more!!!!! 
and please dont write back with "he's an asshole...." lol cus he REALLY isnt!! haha but this dus make him sound kinda ****y....
Another long story short....,my maid of honor is A DOOSH bag an i wanna boot her from the wedding!! isnt that terrible!! an all i wanna do is stuff my face!! ok now im done!! gonna go eat some friggen 100cal cupcakes....those seem to always do the trick. THANK U FOR reading....sorry i took so much of ur time

Sorry don't have any advice Im not married, hope it all gets better soon. It sounds like a stressful time for you, The only thing I can say is don't be afraid to stick up for yourself(in a kind and loving way).  and here something to give you a little cheer

lol ty

sorry, no advice, but I really know how overwhelmed you feel right now... It's a tough job to have to carry the weight of the world when family and friends couldn't possibly understand that whats going on inside is completely different than you let on outside... I know the feeling well...but planning a wedding is an IQ test for your mental health...seriously, if you live through that, you can do anything... I'm sorry about your father, it must be terrible for him to have to face down his own mortality when everyone else is trying to be festive and plan a wedding...it sounds like he's scared... If nothing else right now, your eating is the one thing you DO have control over...if you feel hungry all the time, eat DENSE foods...they'll stick with you longer and you wont be munching all day... I hate that people feel its their duty to GUILT people about what they eat...but you can't make anyone who hasn't been here understand how it feels... I hope things get better...I remember the "planning crisis" before my wedding...it was awful...so I don't envy you... but it only gets better from here after this much bs... good luck! xxxBecca

Thank u...  im bout done with this wedding planning BS an ready to elope....not even lying! idk HOW people enjoy this!! although as nieve as i was...i thought this would be GREAT! but it isnt!! haha. and to clarify...it isnt MY dad its HIS which is why i have not sympothy anymore for him....haha. if it were my dad id be in a pysch ward right now with a mental breakdown of some sort! so THANK GOD that it isnt!.  But thank u.