Promiscuous Girl -does ladies pants size matter to men.

Hey everybody I am 20yrs old and had an RNy close to a yr ago I have done really well and lost a lot of weight. I am around 150 pounds from 275 i think?  Well  i have never dated before but all of a sudden i feel like guys want me for my body and nothing else. I have been on a few dates and went WAY to far. I have no idea what happened to me. I have never done a thing in my life not even kissing and now i am ashamed of my behavior and can't explain it.  Is this kinda acting out normal. These guys are my age and obviously don't know bout the surgery. Well, i told one but he just said, "what?" "you look really good" "and ain't no reason to let this food go to waste" he ate the rest of my eggs. OMG i need help. these guys are totally not worth it or the drama and i know they only want one thing even though i don't plan on that but. When i asked them if they would date me if i was 250 or 300 pounds they said NO thats too big. I said "even if i was the same person" They still said no. I am kinda hurt yet i know its true. Guys stare at me while they drive and everything. I feel like its all surreal and fake. i feel like i am living a lie and only now wanted for my body. IF THERE WAS A GUY BEFORE SURGERY at least maybe i would have known he liked me for me but now its my body. i don't even think they care about what i eve nhave to say. its like fast forward social life from hermit to sexy bombshell . i am still selfconscious of myself and all. Is this normal are my feelings normal? Am i being used? Are these guys too low for me? Help?

Yes.  You are being used... but you're letting it happen.  I have been in the same boat.  There are countless boys I've been out with and yes, revelled in the attention and let the situation go further than it had to.  These guys are not for you... I thought they were for me.  I mean, come on... they were paying attention to me!  They thought I was hot!  I was in lust already. It is up to you to stop it.  Its ok to do whatever you're comfortable with... but have a visible line and don't cross it chick.  Its going to be hard, I totally know.  The point is to care for your well being above anyone else.

When you go out... go out with some friends and just have fun.  Enjoy the looks from the peanut gallery, but don't go up to anyone.  Just have a great night with your gal pals and go home with them... that totally helped me.

If you want, PM me... I totally know what you're going through, although not the sexy bombshell statement ha ha.

It's a sickening feeling isn't it ( the sudden male attraction is wonderful but at the same time makes you feel shallow.) First of all that acting out is completely normal. You're making up for lost time...like the condensed version of a long story ya know? Secondly...this is a prime time for you to do some soul searching. Figure out who you are, what kind of man you see yourself with during the worst of times... not the best! That's what makes for true companionship. You are only going to get older, wrinklier, greyer...( sorry to be the downer, you get my point...LOL). Attraction should be what draws someone in...not what keeps them coming back for more.  Also turn the tables on yourself. Are you dating 300 pound guys? Would you? What about a guy missing his legs,poor, or one whose not attractive? If you are willing to date ANY kind of guy then yeah...I'd say you are fair. But it can't be a double standard.  I know nothing about you except what I can gleam from your post. Hopefully your experience on "the other side" will make you a compassionate mate who's open to finding guys who would love you NO MATTER WHAT. And that is why TRUE love is such a rare and special thing in this world. When you find it...you'll know you've got somethin' good!!! Linsey

Thank God I weight less than 220 lbs., have all my limbs, and am dead sexy!

...I guess we'll just have to take your word for it since you won't ever let us see you.

Something about posting my picture on a public forum scares me.  I've been burned before!

Yeah...I understand.  Better to remain incognito...

I feel the same way. I cant trust guys anymore, and my love life is DEAD! I had bfs before my bypass,  now i just cant. Before the bypass if i guy called me/asked me out i knew he really liked me for the inside and the out side (or just got over the out side) and it made me feel safe with him. Now more guys asked me out/ check me out and i cant do it... i just fall apart, its so strange, i think they only want me for my body AND THATS NOW OK WITH ME! I want someone who likes me for me.

not NOW... NOT lol