OT relationship question

Ok everyone, I have a question for you all. I am pre-op and am curious about the changes that go on in relationships after WLS. I have a boyfriend now and I love him very much, but I am worried that after surgery my mindset will change being free of the weight and want to start everything anew. Has anyone experienced a change in feelings after losing so much weight? Ever feel like there might be something better out there because after losing so much weight you become more attractive to a larger group of people?

Would someone who suddenly finds you attractive, that didn't before WLS,  really be "something better"?   You're relationship will change. Some more than others. I never ever felt like there was someone better out there after losing weight if that's what you mean. Are you already having doubts about your current boyfriend? Do you feel like you settled or thought you couldn't do better? Is that what you're asking? Linsey

I had the same thoughts - I had a boyfriend, one I had been with for a long time before my WLS and he is now my husband.  So you can see the conclusion I came to - he loved me and found me attractive at 300 pounds.  He is more than I deserve sometimes.  He is a stinker other times, but more often than not he is a prince and I am the luckiest girl ever. With any other man I would have to wonder if he would still love me if I gained 10 pounds - not Kyle.  Now, if this guy you are with isn't the one for you, he won't be the one for you NOW just as much as he won't be when you are a post-op.  I wouldn't want someone who wouldn't have loved me at my heaviest because I was a worthwhile person then too.  But that is me. I think you have to follow your heart on this one, though, because people are different so you can't generalize.  Don't rush into anything - but also make sure that you do the best for yourself because you deserve the best.  I wish you wisdom and discernment in this.

I don't worry about my mindset after surgery.. I worry about my boyfriends.. He has always told me how much he likes "thicker women" and can't stand skinny women and doesn't find them attractive.. Supposedly. So I worry I won't meet his criteria anymore lol and will persue someone else. =-/