In a crummy spot...

Ok, so I know what I have to do, I just don't know how, or when to do it.  Here is my situation.  I haven't my Dad about being approved.  He doesn't even know I was trying for it.  He is one of those people that doesn't approve of it.  Diet and exercise.  That's the way to lose weight.  Maybe if you are him... I've tried.  I lose 30 lbs, and then its STOPS.  Nothing can beat that plateau.  Then the weight comes back 3fold.  So... my sister, mother, and aunt have all had the surgery.  Mom and aunt are great.  Sister went through some addiction transfer.  If you are interested, I don't talking about in on PM, but not really for the boards, in case she reads, ya know?  Anyway, my dad sees that, and automatically everyone is going to be like that.  So I'm scared to even tell him.  Granted, she was 18 when she had hers, and I'm 26.  My dad and I are close too.  It's weird.  He will probably be ok with it, but I don't really want to hear his opinion on what a bad idea it is.  I've made up mymind.  My support system is AMAZING aside from him.  My friends all support me.  The rest of my family supports me.  My coworkers know, and are uber excited.  Its just him.  AGHHH  its just frustrating.  Did anyone else have issues like this?

Tell him it's diet and exercise then.  Maybe when you are lean and healthy, you can drop the bomb on him.

If your mom and aunt have been successful and you've seen your sister struggle - obviously you have a pretty good idea of the ways to make this work and the behaviors to watch out for.  Tell him that.  Tell him you know that he loves you and that is why he worries (and you appreciate that he does) but that you have made up your mind and you are going to do everything in your power to do this right.  After that - you're an adult and are going to do it with or without his approval, but you would really prefer to have him in your corner.  The way you word things will make a big difference.  I hope he is able to get behind you and I wish you the absolute best with your upcoming surgery!

My nanas like that she was not happy about the decision i made, but i know that she loves and supports me no matter what, but its difficult some people are cool with it and others are not, Does your dad have a weight problem?  Some people who have never had a weight problem like us dont really understand it, because they might only have to loose 20lbs, which isnt as difficult as someone who had to loose 100+. Don't worry im sure once he sees that you are healthly he'll come around.

Here's a different idea to try: tell him when you're together with your mom, aunt, and sister...That way he will be less likely to trash WLS in front of them....I also agree though that since you have had the benefit of watching people close to you both succeed and struggle a bit with WLS you will be better prepared for success and have an idea of what to watch out for. Transfer addiction is a serious thing - I guess the trick for me is to try to avoid it or at least focus my energy on addictions that are healthier then food addiction. Like addiction to OH and WLS support groups and shopping at Goodwill (sure it's a shopping addiction, but I can handler five bucks a week)

My grandmother and aunt were the same way.  I didn't tell them anything until I was one month out.  After that, they were supportive. But everyone else that I know who is against the surgery... its high protein low carb :)