Fat Girl Syndrome

Is anyone besides me finding that they have serious relationship baggage as a hold over from their fat days? If so, what have you found? Have you resolved it or is it a work in progress? What are you doing to be healthier and happier in that respect?

I haven't seen you around here in forever, Ferny!

I know, I need to be more involved, I need my support group. =( I'm not doing really great right now, if you hadn't gathered. You, however, my friend, are so close to goal!

Seems like forever away!

Is it something specific you are referring to? Nothing is popping into my mind that I could think of that would relate.

The only hold over from my "fat girl" days that I notice is this completely confused feeling I get when I am hit on - it's like "Are you seriously talking to me?  Are you sure you're not confusing me with a pretty girl?" - and sometimes I don't realize what transpired was actually a guy trying to flirt with me until hours later, when I'm telling someone what happened or when I friend who witnessed what happen tells me what happened - and I end up feeling like a moron.  Case in point - I go to a college that is 70% male and 30% female, so I have class with a lot of guys, and since I am in the more advanced classes for my major, I see the same guys all day long in our smaller classes.  We do a lot of talking in class but I never went out of my way to talk to any of them outside of class because for my entire educational career I have been invisible.  Over the course of this last semester I was cornered by several of them at different times and asked out by 4 of them.  One time I was eating dinner alone in the campus cafeteria, fully involved in a book I was reading for class, and a guy came and asked to sit with me.  We sat and talked for 3 hours, about class mostly, and I thought it was just a nice conversation - when I told a friend about it later she said I was definately being hit on...I didn't see it that way because I don't see how people could find me worthy of the attention or the effort, but in retrospect, yeah, maybe I was. The only thing you can do is try to realize that you ARE worth the attention and you are worth waiting for someone who fulfills your expectations.  Is that what you were talking about at all?

I have had some moments. I get very diffensive for 'bigger people' when thin people are harpen about them. I can't stand it. I feel like they are attacking me. I still feel like the girl who has a pretty face and great personality, and is fat. I'm finnally under 200 pounds, but i still feel fat. but i know i'm not as fat. i heard on a radio show to take pictures of yourself so you can see how much smaller you really are. and also when out in public, have friends or family say, 'that person is your size' so you can SEE that you are smaller bc we've seen ourselves as big for soo long. hope that helps!!! Amanda

I never felt as big as I was...but now that I am so much smaller I find myself (when people compliment me) saying "I'm not that small" what am I saying???? Yes I am...I am still stuck with the "fat girl" complex I guess...weird I never thought of myself as that until after I am nearly at goal. I also get defensive of my old self...I work at a credit union as a teller so I see a modest amount of cute guys...they get nervous, drop their drivers licences, throw pens across the counter...I think what is wrong with you...LOL then I think...they are nervous because of me...weird concept. Or I don't notice that guys are trying to make eye contact with me or look at me until someone tells me later... So Many Changes...(So very worth it!)