Waiting Still!

It makes me crazy to have to wait and wait and wait for everything right now. I hate it. I know what a whiner I am being, we have all been there done that. But come on. I saw the surgeon on Friday and he told me that I would have my date by today! Great right? Well I called my insurance to see if they had submitted the paperwork for approval, and the answer was NO. They have not even sent in my stuff yet, I am just pissed. The surgeon also told me that there was a chance that he would be doing surgery on Thursday, the 20th and that I may be able to get it done then...Well it is now Tuesday, and I highly doubt that I will be having surgery on Thursday. I am ready, I have been on the pre-op diet for two weeks now. If I have to wait 3-4 more weeks for surgery, I know I am going to eat. I dont want to ruin this, but I am hungry. I am ready to start my life. I am just frustrated. My husband, who is not very supportive at all thinks it is just great that I am not going to be able to have it done this year and he keep trying to feed me things he knows I do not want to eat right now. I feel lik his attempts to sabotage me are ridiculous, not to mention RUDE. Now I have to deal with his ridicule for another month while I wait for surgery. This sucks. Sorry to go on and on. I am just mad right now and I have no other outlet. I cried at work today over this stupid waiting. AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH! Thanks for letting me rant. Sorry so down. I am sure things will be looking better soon. I am just frustrated.

Sorry you are having a rough time *hugs* I hate when surgeons get peoples expectations up to only let them down. My surgeon wouldnt schedule surgery until the insurance gave their approval first to keep such things from happening.  This surgery is worth the wait - I know its hard but you have made the decision and it will work out for you. Waiting another month is hard but think of all the wonderful months you will have once you are post-op.. these few more days/weeks are just a drop in the bucket :-)

Thanks Jennifer. I like what you said about this time being just a drop in the bucket. That makes sense.  I appreciate reading all of your posts. It is very reassuring:) So thank you! I think I am really struggling with the time, because of how little my husband is supporting this surgery. Its like he feels like he "won" because I did not get it this year like I had wanted. Now he sends me negative news articles (old ones mind you) and tells me that I am making a stupid decision by going through with this. I guess he feels like because it was postponed, it gives him the right to make me feel bad every day in the hopes that I will change my mind...Well, I wont. So this sucks, and he is just making me feel bad. All of this and yet, he is the one who is uneduacated on the subject. He wont go to support meeting, see Doctors with me, nothing if it has anything to do with the surgery. Ridiculous. Sorry, I am just so frustrated right now. But I will get through it. I am just glad I have somewhere to go to get things off my chest. Thanks again.

That realy sucks about the scheduling issues...I know for me waiting was probably, no definetly, the hardest part of the whole journey. I don't get why you are already on the pre-op diet. How long is is supposed to last? Mine was only supposed to be for seven days, although I have heard of some surgeons requiring one month long pre-op diets. I agree with Jennifer, your surgeon shouldn't actually be scheduling anyone until after insurance approval. That's the way it works at Duke too...If I were you I would make that suggestion to them. Like she said, this will all seem like nothing six months from now when you are experiencing Wow Moment after Wow Moment, but I know that is difficult to appreciate now, right now it just feels like you have this new life in front of you but you are in a holding pattern or in limbo until the beurocracy machine known as your insurance company slowly turns it wheels, frustrating I know... Nobody else said it but I will, just out of concern - The fact that you claim your husband is being unsopportive, even undermining you, concerns me. It concerns me alot. The next few months are going to be difficult. Difficult for you physically and especially emotionally. It will be MUCH harder to deal with if you don't have support from the person closest to you. It will test you, it will test him, and trying not to sugar coat anything here - it will test your marriage. I'm not saying you are doomed by any means though. It is just important that you are aware of that going in so that you can plan and prepare for it. Kind of like if you know there is a hurricane approaching, you do certain things to prepare. So just knowing about the potential pitfalls ahead and thinking about what to do to avoid them can pay dividends. Like they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! OK, I'm rambling, just something to watch out for. Recommendations:  talk to us, your surgery programs psychologist, support groups, wherever you can or are most comfortable for support. Good luck, and I hope you hear back soon!