ot-whats more important friendship or telling ppl how you feel?

ok this is a long story....but i will do my best to make it short. There is this guy...(isn't that how it always start) but there is this guy i been friends with for like almost 10 yrs..and somewhere in that time we have been ummm a little more than friends if you catch my drift lol (3yrs this has been going on) and everything has been going fine UNTIL my feelings start to get involve and now i am tired of just "friends with benifits" i want more...but i dunno if i should tell him. Our friendship means a lot to me so i don't want to mess that up but i don't want to go playing like i am fine with this situation either....oh i am so confused...Oh yea and he told me 2 days ago he got a job in texas so he will be moving 6 hours away :( and now i am totally sad... so with him moving shouldn't i hold my tongue anyway? or what HELP ME PLEASE

If he moved and you didnt tell him, dont you think you might regret it?  If he is not interested and he is a good ffriend then he should be able to handle it with dignity.  If he is in to you too then great.  If he freaks out about it then he wasnt such a great friend anyways.  The way I see it, life is short, and if we do not take our chances they will pass us by.  But that is just my opinion.  I hope I helped even a little!  Good luck!

Im pretty much in the same situation... minus the part about him moving away. Personally, i didnt get the reaction i was hoping for. apparently, he likes me, but hes "not into" fat chicks. So he basically told my friend that yes, hes attracted to me, and yes, he digs me, but hes not attracted enough to date me, and that he wants to "keep me around" because he knows im going to eventually melt away. No surprise Im done with him. I understand in a way, because everyone is attracted to certain things and what not and I personally am not attracted to "bigger guys" but still.. hes an ass!! lol who does that??!? I hope your situation pans out differently! I would say go for it. Like the other post said, you dont want to regret not saying something and life is too short not to take chances. DO IT! Best of luck!!!!
Mandy

Id just tell him how you feel - you need to be honest because if you started to develop feelings and he hasnt then its not fair to either of you to keep it a secret - and who knows, maybe he has feelings for you too. You two have been friends for so long... dont let this end the friendship!

well i totally wish i could help you with this but my situation is pretty much the same i've been friends with this guy since kindergarten and since he came back from the navy 4 months ago we have been hanging out all the time later night phone calls and everything only difference is no "benifits"...lol...i've been trying to sort out my feelings and trying to figure out if i should tell him or not i know that no matter what he will stick around as my friend but i don't want to have an weirdness between us...i know this not of any help to you at all i guess i just wanted to let you know that you were not alone in this matter...good luck to you in whatever you decide to do...let me know how it turns out.