To Date or Not To Date?!?!?!
I am now 6 months out of surgery and down 94lbs... I am starting to gain confidence in myself (Finally!!!). I want to start dating but am not sure if I am ready. I have some confidence but also know i still have a long way to go.. and am not completely comfortable with my body.
How long did you wait to begin dating???
Me it was only a few months before I did. But just go out and date. DO NOT get into anything to serious. It is AMAZING what will come your way. Im 2 years 4 months post-op and I am seeing a body builder, natural not steroid type and he's an absolute gentleman. Did I ever expect I would be seeing someone like that....uh NO. Its still kinda not registering correctly. Its like everyone I have dated, just kept getting better and better as things went on.
Am I worried about getting physical with him...hell yes. Cause my TT aint till Feb and I dont exactly look great without clothes. but got to deal with it.
According to reports it takes most a year and a half to loose weight but 3-5 years before the brain is fully adjusted to our physical changes. So not being comfortable with your body is gonna be a natural feeling. Just keep reminding yourself, you are beautiful.
DS Aug 15th,2005 @ goal, living life and loving it.
"An Arabian will take care of its owner as no other horse will, for it has not only been raised to physical perfection, but has been instilled with a spirit of loyalty unparalleled by that of any other breed."
Well i'm now 3 months post-op and decided to start dating...i think its best to get yourself out there sure you may have some bad dates but who doesn't...lol...i know i still have a long way to go too and i don't think we will ever be completly comfortable with our bodies...i guess if you feel like you are ready then you should just put yourself out there and go for it...best of luck to you!
I am pre op so I can't really give you any insight in that area. I do know that I can't wait to start going out, dating, etc in my new body but am making it my goal not to getting into anything serious for at least a year. However, I just came out of a relationship, so I'm kinda over those for the time being anyways haha
Kate
When I decided to have surgery I told myself that the first year post-op would be MY YEAR. I would put ME first and only me first. I told my friends, told my family.. basically my main focus would be myself and what I needed to do to be successful.
Definately the first 6 months dating was out for me... too much going on... when I hit around 9 months out is when I started dating but kept every *very* casual. At a year out I felt I was more ready to date because I was close to goal and had really accomplished everything I had wanted to.
Personally my feeling was that I wouldnt be able to put all the work into myself that I needed if I was putting work into a relationship.
First visit to surgeon - 288 ~ bmi 45.1
2 week pre-op 252 ~ bmi 39.5
Total lost - 153 Since surgery - 117!
Goal weight - 155 (mine) 180 (surgeons)
Current weight - 135 (2020 I lost 10lbs due to dedicating myself to working out more and being in better shape)
1/14/2025 still maintaining 135 :-)
Extended TT, lipo, fat injections - 11/2011
BA/BL/Arm Lift - 7/2014
Scar revision on arms - 3/2015
HALO laser on arms/neck 9/2016
Thigh Lift 10/2020
Thigh Lift revision 10/2021
I am still pre op, and need to stop dating, i need to do like all the advice and put myself first for a year, i think it will be a major change, i just got out of a major serious relationship and well im glad im not in anything serious because i am going to have a whole new body to go have fun with. Im tired of all the creepos that have fat fetishes...they creep me out :)
Thank you all for the advice... it is hard huh?!?1?! I honestly dont think I am ready onle because I am not comfortable with myself.. i truely believe you cant be happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself... and I am not at this current time so i guess i am just not ready.... who knows.... sometimes you meet a guy and something comes of it when you least expect it.... maybe i just havent met the right guy to make me feel comfortable with myself... until then....
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