Totally OT but I need guy advise...

So I have been dating a little more since losing weight and I am totally new to all of this and I need some advise....There is this guy that started at my work about 3 months ago and a little after he started he began asking me out, he asked me out for a good 3 weeks before I finally said yes, I said we could go out to dinner...but I was meaning just as friends. So we went out a few times just as friends but I could tell that he really liked me (and it wasn't just a hunch he told me that he really liked me)  after I got to know him better I started to like him too, hes so funny and has such a good personality. I thought things were going good we always have fun together at work and when we are alone but we have never really taken things to the next level its always been just flirty and fun. So we went to another co-workers party the other night and we got to talking and he basically said he wanted me but he didn't want to take it to the next level just because we work together pretty closely and he doesn't want it to be uncomfortable, which is understandable, but then he goes on to say that he still wants to hang out and get to know each other and see what happens with us and if something happens then it happens....ok so first we can't take it to the next level but then he wants to see where things go....what the heck is up with that? I'm so confused its like he pursued me and when I really start to like him he kinda pulls away...what should I do? Should I continue hanging out with him and see where things go or should I just stop seeing him all together? I mean I wouldn't have cared if this was like a month ago but now I am really starting to like him...

HEY... s0o i think that considering that he was definately upfront  with you about his feelings, that maybe you should try to tell him how you feel about him.  When he said that he "wanted you" ...I'm not sure what that means b/c then he says "I want to take it slow".. lol it could have been the reaction that he saw on your face and he changed up his story real quick.. but I would say that if he's not like overbearing and he's respectful then you should give him another chance to see where things could go with you guys! g0odluck :) and whatever happens just remember that you gave it a shot and everything happens for a reason!

He's just being passive-aggressive.  He wants you but he's probably waiting for you to make a move or talk about it.  From what you described, he seems like he's being upfront with you, which is a good thing.  Yes, he may say that he wants you but he wants to spend more time trying to figure you out... there's nothing wrong with that.  Sure, you could turn it into a hot sweaty fling but one or both of you may not want that right now.  Don't be confused, be patient... wait it out... continue to hang out with him and see where it goes.  You met him at work 3 months ago?... give it time.  3 months is way to fast to jump into a relationship in my opinion... to mess around sure, but if you or him want a relationship, its about discovery...and time will tell. 

Thanks guys for the advise...we'll see what happens!