need a boyfriend

Kristen T.
on 11/2/07 8:44 am - Lagrange, KY

is it so bad for me to want a boyfriend. only 18 yrs old. but i have never  had a boyfriend. i am just so sick of  sitting at home dateless while all my other friends are such happy couples. i hate this world sometimes. men especially in high school are so cruel sometimes. any advice for me.

286/236/120   Starting/Current/Goal  

 
                            
            
HolliBeth1
on 11/2/07 12:43 pm - Millbrook, AL
You just had surgery!!! You should be relaxing right now, not thinking about stupid boys!!! I promise in a few weeks you are going to get more attention than you ever imagined! Just wait! Holli

Highest~ 267/ Surgery~ 253/Current~133/ GOAL 130
August 31, 2006 ~ Gastric Bypass~December 19, 2008 ~Tuck with muscle repair~December 16, 2009 ~ Tummy Tuck revision (loosened skin as a result of stretch marks), Mons reduction, Mini Inner Thigh Lift, BL/BA to Full C from AA :)~December 18, 2013 ~ Butt Lift and brachioplasty~Completed by Dr. Wang-Ashraf at Artisan Plastic Surgery in Atlanta, Georgia.
"No day, but today", RENT...Johnathan Larson

*~*Jaci *.
on 11/2/07 1:40 pm - Central Valley, CA
Hey Sweetie.  I didn't have a boyfriend until 6 mos post op @ 22 years old.  Currently, I don't have one either... Personally I think its more fun without one!  How else can you dance with anyone you want to at parties or what not.  You're 18... you'll find someone.  You just had surgery.  Relax like Holli said... Learn to love yourself.  Once I started to appreciate myself and body.. it was all good.

*~*Jaci*~*

The more things the change, the more they're still the same.

Jennifer K.
on 11/3/07 11:41 am - Phoenix , AZ

This time is YOUR time... so focus on YOURSELF and what YOU need to do to be SUCCESSFUL. I was single for many years before surgery... and was single for almost a year after. Focusing on my nutrition, food addiction issues and working out took up all my time... this surgery takes a lot of work to be successful.

A boyfriend will come in time... work on yourself and just go out and have fun.. trust me soon enough there will be all sorts of male attention comming your way so just date and have fun. You will find its hard to focus on yourself in a new relationship... I am even struggling with that now... putting what I need to do to the side for somebody else.. its not helping me be a successful person - sometimes you just gotta be selfish!

When you stop looking and just start having fun is when it will happen... when you sit around wishing for a man, they wont come... when you stop and just enjoy your life is when they come a runnin!

First visit to surgeon - 288 ~ bmi 45.1
2 week pre-op 252 ~ bmi 39.5
Total lost - 153 Since surgery - 117!
Goal weight - 155 (mine) 180 (surgeons)
Current weight - 135 (2020 I lost 10lbs due to dedicating myself to working out more and being in better shape)

1/14/2025 still maintaining 135 :-)

Extended TT, lipo, fat injections - 11/2011

BA/BL/Arm Lift - 7/2014

Scar revision on arms - 3/2015

HALO laser on arms/neck 9/2016

Thigh Lift 10/2020

Thigh Lift revision 10/2021

*~*Jaci *.
on 11/3/07 1:14 pm - Central Valley, CA
You are sooo my very favorite advice giver!

*~*Jaci*~*

The more things the change, the more they're still the same.

Jennifer K.
on 11/4/07 9:08 pm - Phoenix , AZ
I am just wise in my old age! lol I think I am lucky because I have friends 7,6,5 years out (and know many other people, friends of friends etc)... I saw the mistakes many people who had the surgery years and years ago made and really learned from them.... when I speak at my surgeons seminars I always get asked whats my biggest advice or best tip and I always say for at least the first year be selfish and focus on yourself!!

First visit to surgeon - 288 ~ bmi 45.1
2 week pre-op 252 ~ bmi 39.5
Total lost - 153 Since surgery - 117!
Goal weight - 155 (mine) 180 (surgeons)
Current weight - 135 (2020 I lost 10lbs due to dedicating myself to working out more and being in better shape)

1/14/2025 still maintaining 135 :-)

Extended TT, lipo, fat injections - 11/2011

BA/BL/Arm Lift - 7/2014

Scar revision on arms - 3/2015

HALO laser on arms/neck 9/2016

Thigh Lift 10/2020

Thigh Lift revision 10/2021

HolliBeth1
on 11/3/07 1:45 pm - Millbrook, AL
Jennifer is really the best advice giver ever! I love reading everything she comments on! Jennifer, if no one else will meet us in Atlanta I am all up for just me & you & your words of wisdom~ Holli

Highest~ 267/ Surgery~ 253/Current~133/ GOAL 130
August 31, 2006 ~ Gastric Bypass~December 19, 2008 ~Tuck with muscle repair~December 16, 2009 ~ Tummy Tuck revision (loosened skin as a result of stretch marks), Mons reduction, Mini Inner Thigh Lift, BL/BA to Full C from AA :)~December 18, 2013 ~ Butt Lift and brachioplasty~Completed by Dr. Wang-Ashraf at Artisan Plastic Surgery in Atlanta, Georgia.
"No day, but today", RENT...Johnathan Larson

Jennifer K.
on 11/4/07 9:09 pm - Phoenix , AZ
Im sure I can drag some of the Charlotte folk down... nothing better than a road trip!

First visit to surgeon - 288 ~ bmi 45.1
2 week pre-op 252 ~ bmi 39.5
Total lost - 153 Since surgery - 117!
Goal weight - 155 (mine) 180 (surgeons)
Current weight - 135 (2020 I lost 10lbs due to dedicating myself to working out more and being in better shape)

1/14/2025 still maintaining 135 :-)

Extended TT, lipo, fat injections - 11/2011

BA/BL/Arm Lift - 7/2014

Scar revision on arms - 3/2015

HALO laser on arms/neck 9/2016

Thigh Lift 10/2020

Thigh Lift revision 10/2021

Shasta L.
on 11/5/07 5:45 am - CO
girl alot of us are in the smae boat of wanting someone, especailly to love us just like we are. It s really hard sometimes, but like what most everyone else said.Right now is time to focus on you, and honestly I just recently got my first boyfriend (over now) and it is so over rated. At least to me being on my own is soo much more. im enjoying having this time to myself and being able ot do my own thing. And I havnt even had my surgery yet, so I can only imagine afterwards. Guys can be cruel. but you have alot of tiem ahead of you You will find the righ person. I just encourage you to also enjoy being single. Find some other single frineds and go out. It really is nice.

nickiejaclyn
on 11/14/07 11:54 am
Sweetie, dont worry about the boyfriend, your real friends are soo much better and (sometimes) cause less drama... haha. I'm 21 and the never had a boyfriend. dont let people put pressure on you and more importantly dont put pressure on yourself to get a man, bc high school boys are sooo lame and immature.  once your outta high school and go to college you'll see how stupid they were. and well college boys arent that great either, BUT there are some good ones bc in college they havent known you for 12 years, and you get to meet a broader range of guys. your friends may seem like the happy couple but if you look more closely they are full of drama. wow i just realized how long this has gotten sorry. lol hope this helps

Ciao
~Nickie~

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