OT: Need Advice

so here's the thing...i'm 23 years old and i live with my parents still...moving out on my own is expensive and with my job it seemed nearly impossible...i've been wanting to move out for sometime now and i recieved an offer from a really good guy friend of mine to move in with him not only would the rent be cheap but i wouldn't have to pay any utilities and stuff...this is a really good deal but my dad is so trippin' over fact that i want to move in with a guy....so i go on to tell him that this isn't just any guy but to remember that i have known him since kindergarten and that our familise are really close....and that it would be like moving in with a brother...its not like he some stranger and we are not romantically involved on any way whatsoever...so my question is do you think that i should just go against my parents wishes and move out anyway i mean i am 23 so i can make my own decisions or does my dad have some merit in his not wanting me to live with a guy???  p.s. any advice would help!!!

First I am going to say I am probably not the person to listen to on this one... But with that said I am still going to give my advice because, well I like to give advice. MOVE OUT!  Seriously if you trust and have known this guy since you were that young.  You sound like you have a good friendship relationship and thats all you want then its fine.  Hopefully he understands that you dont want to date/get envolved. As far as your parents are concerned, once you are out and they relaize that hes a good guy you guys are good friends and everything is fine they will get over it.  You are their daughter they want you happy and safe and in the long run if you think your happy and safe in this apartment and you can afford it go for it, they will come around. 

thanks Amanda...i've already told my friend that i would....and the thing is that my parents know him...really well...like i sid we have been friends forever....and whats even better is that it isn't even an apartment...it a house...so that just make the deal even better

I think you should move out... If you feel it is best.. Although i wish I could have lived with my parents forever... But if you are ready do it!... Parents never like seeing their babies go...

 

 

I've lived with a couple guys....it's SO much fun....seems like less drama too!!!!  I would highly recommend doing it, your parents will be fine!!!!!!!!!  If it's time for you to go, it's time for you to go and they should understand that you need a little independence!  Just tell them you are going to do it and they will survive! Kim 

I agree!  I live with my husband and his BFF and We have so much fun!  There is alot less drama then living with girls... 

Here is what I am going to tell you... you should never move in with friends - its usually a recipe for disaster! If you do decide to move with this guy you need to have a LONG SERIOUS talk beforehand and have everything put down on paper... what you both are paying when it is due what bills are in what persons name... cleaning, use of 'common areas' whatever you can think of...  Id say if you are financially stable enough go and move... if you make this choice and your parents wont help/support you after be prepared for that (like if it doesnt work out with living with this guy). They will eventually accept your decision and get over it... afterall you are an adult.

Thank you all for all the advice...i am going to take all this into condideration when i make my final decision this is a big step for me! i'll let you all know how it turns out!