Let me start by saying this... this is my opinion and doesnt reflect on you or your blog... being young myself I could NEVER imagine having gone thru surgery and have been in a relationship. Once I decided to have surgery I decided not to get into a relationship. I dated some but kept everything very casual. Post-op I decided for at least the first year post-op I wouldnt get into any serious relationships and again just keep things casual. I am a little over a year out and met somebody and weve been together for a few months now. Honestly I am still holding back because I am still experiencing life in this new body.... its like going from a worm into a butterfly.... I have my wings but still learning how to use them. I went into this surgery promising myself until I reached my goal I would put ME first and only ME first. I wanted to do everything to be 110% successful and not let anyone or anything get in my way. I also found the men I am interested in have changed. A guy I would have dated pre-op I wouldnt date post-op. It has nothing to do with looks... just more personality. The guy I am seeing now is more athletic and likes to workout... I never would have been with a guy like that pre-op because I didnt care to work out. I also use to date guys who were as interested in food as I am. The new guy is interested in food.. but eating healthy. I couldnt be with somebody eating junk when I am trying to eat healthy you know? Its almost like when you are overweight your bond with many other people is over food... friends you always go out to eat with etc... when food is no longer your main priority you will see some relationships in your life change.
As for you... you are young and your marriage is young. I would suggest both of you going to marriage counseling... this will allow both of you to bring issues to the table and decide if you are going to make it work or not. I understand about wanting to go out, flirt and have fun... will your hubby care if you do that as long as you dont take it to far?
I have been overweight since middle school so I feel I missed out on a lot... I am sort of "making up for lost time" now and experincing things at 28 many people experienced in high school. In my mind its something I would always wonder about.. the proverbial "what ifs"... so allowing myself this time, I believe, will let me move on in my life and eventually settle down. I have many friends who had WLS and they all go thru the phase post-op where they want to go out and party and flirt... basically get some ego boosts and build confidence.
First visit to surgeon - 288 ~ bmi 45.1
2 week pre-op 252 ~ bmi 39.5
Total lost - 153 Since surgery - 117!
Goal weight - 155 (mine) 180 (surgeons)
Current weight - 135 (2020 I lost 10lbs due to dedicating myself to working out more and being in better shape)
1/14/2025 still maintaining 135 :-)
Extended TT, lipo, fat injections - 11/2011
BA/BL/Arm Lift - 7/2014
Scar revision on arms - 3/2015
HALO laser on arms/neck 9/2016
Thigh Lift 10/2020
Thigh Lift revision 10/2021
