Overly Emotional?

So yeah my doctors office has said that I am "overly emotional" and they are worried about how I will take changes that come up unexpectedly so they are requiring me to attend another meeting with the psychologist before surgery tuesday.  So I have to go in tomorrow and talk to someone about going to see him again.  I think it might be nice, but for the same token I kinda think its silly, I am an emotional person, thats just the way I am, I don't understand why people make such a big deal about it. The two examples they are using is when I went to PAT (pre-admission testing) They surprised me with this filter thing that I had put in yesterday, and I was a little upset because Aaron was leaving for out of town and I was worried that he wouldnt be around and i was upset that it was being sprung on me so last minute. Example 2, I asked if it would be possible for me to have my necklace with my grandmothers ring on it with me while i was in surgery.  She passed away a few years ago and I miss her along shes my strenght and I want it with me when I have surgery. I cry everyone that knows me knows I cry at the drop of a hat, so aparently because of that I am overly emotional and I need to see the psychologist again to prepare me. Sorry I dont know if there is a question or a comment there but I really needed to vent.

Amanda, I've been told the EXACT same thing! I'm "too emotionally involved" or "too immature" because I cry lots. I was babysitting the other day and there was a problem with one of the kids pulling a knife on another. Me being 25 and the kid 14....if I would have punched the little smarty in the face like he deserved then I would have gone to jail. I held back and got angrier and angrier until I was telling the mom about it and I started crying. She was gonna fire me because I was "too emotionally involved"  I had to have my MOM explain to her that I've always been one to cry when things happen. Good, bad...even when no emotions should be present. If I don't let it go then it builds up and I'm not going to self destruct like that.  Do what you need to have your surgery done but if it gets you through by all means....cry. It usually makes me feel much better actually. Don't know about you!  Hope you're feeling better though...if you need to vent you can always contact me on here :) I'm a good listener! (or so I'm told!)  *sings happy happy joy joy* :D

I think they're just making sure you'll be able to handle the surgery well enough.  I say go for it and blabber everything you need to.  Then they'll realize you're just like :that: and go on with their business :) Good luck, hun!

OMG, Amanda! That is totally bizarre! I'm insanely emotional, also! I cry when I'm happy, sad, scared, irritated, and so on. I was crying during prep for the surgery and bawling like a little baby after the surgery. Not to mention the day before surgery I was a wreck and the hours leading up to surgery. You are not alone in the crying department! Don't be worried about it, maybe your doc is just being over protective. Just tell the shrink exactly what you wrote here. I can't imagine a woman being kept from surgery because she was overly emotional! Isn't that in our genes?? We're all a little neurotic every now and then!

You'll be fine and before you know it you'll be waking up on the operating table - CRYING! Haha! :) Please keep us posted on how it goes!

i'm like reallll emotional too. Tell them to get over it :) well not really they may not like that, but you know! you will be great! let us know how it goes!

Okay so i went in this morning they want me to have 6 visits with the psychologist.  I told them I appreciate their concern, and will gladly attend the meetings.  I personally think I will do fine, but whatever.  I think any woman would be emotional about the things that I have been emotional about.  Just wait till they find out i cried when they put my IVC in haha.  Oh well.   I know they are only trying to help me in every way possible so I appreciate the concern but I think its kinda going to be lost on me.

Amanda - Does that mean they're going to push your surgery date back?

NO they are not pushing my date back that was my first question....  HAHA wanna talk about making me emotional if they did that i may be histerical!  haha.  She said that no i have met every condition for surgery this is just extra support that they want me to have.  I have an appointment on monday with dr williams at 245 and he will talk to me then.  and then after surgery I will have a few more appointments with him. But nope they are not moving my surgery!

Emotions?  what are those?  totally overrated... Have they considered any medications for you in short term that might help?  I was on paxil when I was a teenager, it turned me into a zombie... no happy, no sad, no pain, no joy, no libido... zilch, nada, zero.  Not saying that who you are and how your emotions react are a 'bad' or 'good' thing, its just you.  But, if the people who are performing your surgery think it is, sometimes you just have to suckit up so you can make it happen.  Since most of us here are in our 20s and obese (or formerly)... odds are most of us went through our childhoods as the "fat kid"... thus our emotions have developed in that type of environment... some of us grew a very thick skin and dealt with it and today are still very defensive (myself)... some of us took every pick/knock personally and simple things today trigger an emotional episode... some of us are just drama queens or feel everyone is out to get us.   Regarding your examples... and the little that I have studied psychology.  Both your examples exhibited dependancies on another person or an inanimate object as a security blanket.  Both of those behaviors of not letting go of things, in turn will likely make you more suseptible to not letting go of your old and poor eating habits and to choose to alter your life to the degree that it may be completely different than it is now.  As such, if you hold onto the memories of your grandmother to the point where you feel it will (spiritually or whatnot) make your surgery go better by having a ring around your neck, you're transfering your worries and copeing skills onto something you have no control over.  However, if you elect to suck up your emotion, put her ring in the drawer at home and say "self... we're doing this for me, not Aaron, not grandmother... I'll be just fine"... it'll get your 'psych'ed' up to accomplish your goals.   I know that -you- may feel that your 2 emotional responses to the examples you gave are completely valid, justified and warrented... but how do they appear to others... that is the question.  If a doctor feels you're a basketcase because of those responses... you just need to hide yourself a little better in the next week to get the surgery done.  Even if you admit to them, but maybe not yourself, that you overreacted... that's all the confidence they need to see in order to give you the green light. So now... you might tell me that you are ready and you aren't really thinking like this...  But I'm not the judge and jury... its the medical professionals who are supervising your surgery.  They get to decide if you're ready and have jumped through hoop A and B and C. It's up to you to prove to them you are ready even if you think it's silly.  Which is another emotion that is triggering that defensiveness about you feeling that it's silly...called ego...

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