wait for it...

so i'm on the phone with my other of significance last night and we were talking more about the lap band. Up to this point its all been very positive and supportive about WLS -- and last night the questions start:

1. so you'll always have this foreign object in you? 2. won't you be uncomfortable for a long time from it, you'll be uncomfortable everyday? 3. what if you get sick? can you take medicine? 4. You can't drink ever again?

my answers: 1. yes. unless something happens where they have to take it out. Much like you have the pin in your foot from your surgery to help with your medical problem, I will have this in me to help me with my medical problem (MO). 2. i'm already uncomfortable everyday because of my back pain (due to MO) not to mention my other pains. This is a solution to them, and the discomfort should go away within a few days (from surgery). 3. Well, I'll be healthier at a lighter weight, but if i get really sick, I can still take most medicines. You know that NSAIDS are a no, but other stuff is ok. There are people naturally allergic to ibuprofen and they do ok. 4. Yes, i can...eventually, and non-carbonated, in small amounts. Why is this an issue, its not like i really drink now?! I got a little bummed when we were talking because I've been good about sharing materials (informative DVD, handbook, etc.) and now i'm worried i've created a monster with TOO much info.

At what point does it become TMI?

OH! And now she wants to tell her mother. Her mother who HATES me. HATES ME. I asked her to please not, but that I would think about it. I can only imagine her mother using this against me, and I really don't want to hear it or the judgement. Seriously, this woman has called me some NASTY names. I don't need to add fuel to the fire and get burned. But s/o is very close with her mom, so what should i say???

Let her tell her mom,  Be proud of what you are doing! You are gettin healthy....  Its no sweat off your back, She cant "use this against you" .  If she does, she ignorant.

I would agree...but seriously, this woman is a BEASTIE! A BEAST.

My partner is three years younger than me and the woman called me a pedophile.

she despises me. seriously.

Then  she is clearly not worth your time. Tell your so that you would perfer her keeping MUM about it.  and if she doesn't well that is up to you.

word. I don't think my S.O. understands why i'm so reluctant to agree, which is the real frustration.

as an aside, your surgery date is my Best friend's birthday! yay! :)