Im so bleeping mad

Okay, so I have this guy friend, who I have been friends with for a while. We ahve always been pretty close, and I do ahve some feelings for him. I have never let them show because I really wasn't sure how her felt about me. Although, there have been times when i felt some vibes from him. Well the other day we were having a pretty deep conversation, and he as well as said that he knew about my feelings for him. Well I didn't know what to say so I kind of changed subject and we got onto the subject of my upcoming WLS. At this point he started tellling me that after I lost weight guys would be all over me. Then he pretty much eluded to the fact that he would be one of them, and after I lost all the weight I would finally be good enough to date him, and would i hold out for him. i really didn't know what to say. I kind of just left. I haven't spoken to him since, and I don't know what to say. i always thought that we were close, but now I don't even feel like I know him. I just want to tell him that no matter how much weight i lose I will never get with him, and that he is the one that is not good enough for me, but a little part of me still kind of likes him. What should I do? I would appreciate any advice please.

I'm sorry you had to go through that.  I know how rough it is to have strong feelings for someone and then have them tell you what you need to change about yourself before you'll be good enough for them.  However, this is a very, very important step in your life and this surgery is 100% about you.  I know its hard, but try to focus on preparing yourself for the awesomely wonderful and challenging changes you're about to go through.  Don't even worry about him.  What's most important is taking care of YOU.  After things have settled down, you can always revisit your feelings for him.  But if you REALLY feel like you HAVE to do something RIGHT now, maybe you could tell him how upset his comments made you.  Romance aside, if he's a true friend and worth any of your time, he'll take your feelings into consideration.  Hope that was at least a little bit helpful.  Congrats on your upcoming surgery!

UHHHHHHH I hate men things seem like they would be so easier if I was a lesbian. Anyways I personally don't even think someone with that type of behavior is worthy of your friendship.  Makes me soo friggen mad I could cry!!!!!  Hugs for you!!

That was just wrong...  I would let it go.  Keep in mind that he's your friend and friend only.  He's allowed to have f*cked up views on girls and seeing only shallow reasons to be with girls, as wrong as that is.  When you lose your weight, you'll have guys all over you; one's better than he is, and you can pass him by.

tough situation. love is blind, and no matter what size, you deserve someone who loves you for who you are, not what you look like. Keep this guy as a friend (if he's supportive) and let yourself find the right guy... meanwhile, let this guy pine away for you.