Skin - Gimme the REAL Deal, Girls!

In all honesty, men are NO where near as critical as we think. I started at 290+ lbs.  I'm now 165 lbs and a size 6 or 8 (I'm also very tall, 5'9+), which I believe accounts for my still relatively high weight and small-ish sizes. I will not lie.  There is extra skin.  Yet, you know the saying you are your own worst critic?  I truly believe it now. I've dated the whole time throughout my weight loss journey (post-op). My current skin situation is this (sorry in advance for the nitty gritty): - Boobs.  They went from a DD to a B.  However, I have to wear a C cup to squeeze in all the excess skin.  They are wrinkly and disgusting- think sharpei dog.  They hang low as well.  - Upper arms: bat wings.  I probably could get away with short sleeved shirts if I truly wanted to....I'm just SO self conscious about them that I refuse to wear anything that shows the excess skin and upper arm stretch marks. -Stomach?  Dear Lord.  I look lke I've had 5 children, yet I've had none.  There is excess skin and stretch marks galore.  The skin puckers and wrinkles (plastic surgeon says it's only skin, little to no fat left on my stomach). - my legs and thighs look relatively good. Now, back to the dating/guy situation.  Two men have "seen" me if you know what I mean.  They do not know that I've had gastric bypass (only a handful of people even know I've had it....I kept it a secret from everyone other than immediate family and a select few group of friends- didn' think it was their business to know).  Both men have thought I looked GREAT.  No lie.  I still don' t get it. Both guys knew I was looking into plastic surgery, and honestly told me "why?? you look GREAT!" I truly believe it's because they are able to look at me and see the whole picture (a happy, healthy, attractive woman, etc) while I look at me and only focus in on what I DON'T like.  I believe that by only focusing on the select few negative spots, that I make the situation out to be worse than it really is.  Plus, similar to the previous poster, I look fabulous in clothes.  You would never look at me and know I used to weigh almost 300 lbs. When in doubt?  Keep the lights dim and invest in some hot lingerie :) I'm partial to the corset style bustier type lingerie tops.  Pushes my boobs in place and hides the stomach. With that on I look almost hot :) I am currently scheduled for a tummy tuck on the 31st of the month.   I truly feel that I will be much happier with my body if I can remove some of the stomach skin.  However, even if the surgery was not an option for me, I am still thrilled with my current body.  I'd rather tuck 3 lbs of excess stomach skin into size 6 pants than squeeze 290 lbs of fat into size 24 pants any day of the week :) :)