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Should you tell new dates that you've had WLS?  I went out on my first date since surgery this weekend....and it was a dinner date!  It felt so awkward....I ordered grilled chicken and baked potato and ate like 10 bites.....He drank 4 or 5 glasses of water, I had like 3 sips.......ughhhh.....what was I thinking???  And, really, what am I so afraid of??  I'll tell you, losing all this weight has done wonders for my confidence....but not enough....I'm still the same shy, insecure person I was before surgery...any advice?

I was wondering the same thing myself. I would think when things got more serious and you know that theres a definate interest on both parts. I eat pretty "normal" for the most part and usually will order something like a salad with grilled chicken when on a date because I can eat a bunch of salad. If I get questioned I say I see a nutritionist and they have me eating 4-5 small meals a day so I dont eat much each time *shrug*. For me I feel I look decent with my clothes on, but clothes off is another story. If it got to the point where I knew there was a possibility of nakedness thats when I think I would say something. I know by looking at me with clothes on they are definately not expecting what I look like without clothes!!! :)

Whew.......that's another one of my worries!  I'm thinking I won't be having any nakedness until I've had quite a bit of plastic surgery!  I wish I had asked this question before the date!  I could've ate a big grilled chicken salad!  And not looked like I was trying to be aneorexic.....I think I look great with clothes on also....but that old feeling came creeping back to me when I was out with him....I just felt like a big fat girl and wondered why in the hell he would want to date me.  Those are the issues I need help dealing with......No matter how many times I tell myself that I'm awesome and beautiful, etc, I still feel so self-concious around men.  I hate it.  Well, if he suggests another date (and I'm hoping he does) then I'll definitely order a salad!  Thank you so much!