WHY

 Sorry everyone I just need to get this out hopfully so I stop crying. Today all i can think about is why, why am I going to go threw all this. because Cole (my exboyfriend and my one true love) broke up with me. This isn't going to make me completely happy anymore I need him too. I though my life was going to be great I'm finally with the perfect (well in my eyes perfect) man and I am going to get controll over my weight. now whats the point if I am not going to be totaly happy again

Sorry to hear about your break up. It is always hard to lose someone you love especially a boyfriend. The surgery is going to be a life changing experience with a lot of mixed emotions. Hopefully your ex will come back around and support you through the process. If not try to find someone that will be there for you. Remember you will be able to take control over your weight again and hopefully come to a conclusion that the main reason why you did it was for yourself and not for anyone else. You will be happy again it just takes time. Enjoy your time and I wish you a healthy recovery. I am excited for you! I had my surgery 2 weeks ago and I feel better than ever. If you need anything just holla!  Take care! Diana

I'm not trying to be harsh BUT you need to make sure you have the surgery for the right reasons. I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. If he broke your heart: He was NOT perfect. Do this surgery for you, your health, your future. Hang in there!

Sorry about your boyfriend.  I agree that you need to do this for the right reasons.  You WANT this don't you?  You want to be healthier I'm sure.  Do it for you.....and then when you've lost a bunch of weight maybe you'll see him somewhere and he can kick himself for losing you and you can gloat in the moment.  That's what I'm hoping to do when I lose a few pounds. You'll be ok, find yourself.  If one person is the reason you are completely happy or completely sad, then you should try to find other things that make you happy.  Family, friends, school, work, hobbies.  ANd you WILL be totally happy again someday, as soon as the weight melts off you'll be happier.  I always say things happen for a reason...Who knows who you might meet in a few months from now.