kinda depressed

well hello everyone, first a little background on myself. im 19 almost 5 months post-op from open rny, and i guess im having a little sad moment i have lost about 75 pounds but have been stuck at that for a couple weeks, so thats a little depressing. but i guess why i am really sad is sunday is my birthday, finally 20, but once again this will be another birthday/valentines with no boyfriend. i know that sounds stupid, but after all ive been through, its like ugh! when am i ever going to have one, most of my friends are married or engaged or have bf/gf's so its like when is it my time! i just keep telling myself one day, one day well anyway thats my little rant lol thanks for listening

Melissa, I was the same way..Trust me, You will find someone when you are NOT looking for one. And I know it is easy in theory, and you really want to be in a relationship and have someone who cares for you. I wrote a novel in the topic Social Life in this forum about my relationship, so you can read that if you want...But, let me tell you how I met him. I was on a 6 hour fun cruise with some friends of mine, and the boat rocked very hard. In an attempt to NOT fall, I grabbed onto the closest thing. That happened to be the neck of a handsome stranger. lol ..He said "Caught Ya"..Then he asked me to dance, and here I am today with Valentines plans..I literally fell into his lap..lol..And I couldn't have felt like more of a clutz, but he thought it was adorable...Okay enough rambling...Just be patient, and you will find someone great.

Happy Almost Birthday My birthday is the 17th and I also have no boyfriend!! I am with you in the depressed boat as well. But on the other hand I try and remind myself this is ME time... I am going thru so much and so many changes do I even want to start a relationship right now? I am very focused on eating right, working out and getting healthy so I dont know if I have the energy or time to focus on a relationship! Now that I am down over 100lbs people always ask me about my love life and I really have nothing to report because Im not concerned with it too much. Of course it would be nice to have a Vday date!! Ill proally end up on the couch watching a movie with the cats!

Hey just thought I would share...I'm 25 and I've been married for 2 years now, with my husband for 6. Trust me when I say...ENJOY ur "ME" time while you can! My husband's in the military and he's been deployed so many times in our relationship. We were together for 6 months, he was deployed to Germany for 8, came home for 16 months, shipped out to Iraq for 18 and he's been home since November 2005. I'm really getting jittery as to when I'm going to get some "ME" time again. Well, turns out he is leaving in July til December for Fort Know, KY and unfortunately, I couldn't be happier. My friends all laughed when I said "Thank God" when I found out he was going...LMAO...but hey he's not going to a war zone and we'll see each other once a month til he gets home. We get along great and I love him, but the break is so greatly needed!!!! Hang in there though...enjoy your time while you have it so you're not sitting here doing what my crazy butt is doing!