I am steamed, feel like broccoli!

I need to vent this out! Several people in my life, both coo-workers, family, and friends, are suddenly being ******** I have been having a really tough time with losing- I have hit a plateau. But worse is that I have been having really bad pains when I eat- I may have a stricture, or other problem. I get naseuated and instead of puking, i foam. I get diahreah all the time from everything I eat, and the last two weeks or so, i havent been able to eat almost anything. so im pretty miserable. and suddenly all i hear from damn near everybody is"well, you signed up for it." I'm getting a little pissed off. I know that I made the decision to have this surgery because I wanted to LIVE my life, not eat my way into an early grave. Why is it that fat girls who can't change feel the need to ridicule and ostrasize fat girls who are changing? all i want is to have my friends and family show concern and care- im not asking for a freakin dateline special!!! but when it has to do with eating or food, they treat me like i have disease, and it has to do with stupidity. Up to this point, i have been very happy and content, with no depression, but i have this internal rage thing going on because i feel like everyone so nonchalantly doesnt care....or is mad at me for some reason. I am soooo pissed off. I just needed to vent. Thanks.

It's difficult to become more conerned with your own well being and not allow others to stress you out. Their opinons should not matter. However, since they do tell them you needed someone to talk to about it not be belittled over it. Also note, that you are and will for a while longer be more emotionally proned to situations. Try and pull back from situations that have become over emotional for you until you are able to deal with them rationally. Not to say that the lack of support falls under this suggestion. Try to find a support meeting for those in your position in your area. It may be time for new friends to help you through this part of your journey.

Can i say someone has a green monster???? NOT YOU.. fat girls hate fatgirls that are losing weight.. its their issues.. let them vent... You are on step 2.. venting.. good for you.. next step is get on with your life AGAIN..... We CARE,.... That is why you are HERE.. so vent with us.. you have our support and our shoulder to cry on!!!! YES.. we did "SIGN UP" for this.. and what you are going through is NORMAL... This will soon pass.. but sounds like you are just starting.. i didnt read your profile yet.. but relief comes soon.. I promise.. it just might take a month.. swallow hard.. and remember you did this for you NOT THEM.. and you are doing the best you can!!!! keep drinking water.. do not dehydrate!!!! Kisses, Romy

Try eating smaller amounts, much slower and if your doctor has you go through stages that progress to normal eating, go back to an earlier stage. When I was as far out as you are I was just starting to eat soft foods and I sometimes took on too much or too fast, or not soft enough and had problems as well. But with the really bad pains every time you eat, you may be right about having a stricture and if that's the case, you really need to go see your doctor. Diarrhea on a regular basis at this point also isn't very normal or healthy and that alone would be reason enough to go see your doctor right away. As for the foam instead of puking, that is normal and that's what your puking will be like from now on. In my opinion it's a much better way to puke than the pre-op version. Please go see your doc!