Help!!

Ok....I've been waiting for the day I would hear that I was approved for a year now....and finally it happened. My doctors assistant just called me and asked me when I wanted to have surgery...I said as soon as possible....then she said I could do it on Friday....I'm having trouble taking all this in. For some reason it feels like that is too soon. I don't want to say I don't think I'm ready because I've been waiting and anticipating this for so long. I'm ready....but I'm kinda doubting myself. I'm not too sure if I can do this now. I think it is maybe because I am extremely scared. My surgeon told me not to eat any starches about 2 weeks ago....and I have been. Not as many as usual but I have been. I've been eating whatever I can find because I think to myself that I won't be able to ever again. Also....after a month of not smoking....I smoked like 2 cigarettes yesterday. None this morning although I really really want one right now. I'm really confused and I think I just need some words of encouragement or advice. Anyways....she is schelduling(sp?) me for surgery on Monday because I told her Friday was too soon....Any advice suggestions would help me soooo much. Thanks!!

I think too often we let our fear hold us captive. OUr brains start going a million miles per second and we can psych ourselves out. We think of a million reasons why we shouldn't do it. we get nervous and whatever nervous habits we have/had start to creep back up on us. We have to remember to stay positve, start thinking about why we wanted the surgery in the first place. WHen my surgery was first scheduled all of a sudden it was happening all too soon. I had to remember to stay positive, allow those who are close to you and supporting you through this to encourage you. And if you don't think you have anybody, your wrong. You have Thousands of people on OH that are eager to give words of encouragement and support. Just from reading your first entry in your profile it's sounds like it has been a difficult journey so far. You have made succesful attempts to get your life back and now this is just another step in the right direction! Remember stay positive! I have faith that you will make it through just fine don't let fear get the best of you. Fran

WOw I could have written that myself b4 I had my surgery. I was crying so hard the day of my surgery. Everyone person in that surgery room came and introduce themselves to make me feel more comfortable. I just couldnt stop crying b/c I was so scared. But here I am! It was the best thing I have ever done sweetie! Yuo will do just fine. Just know that you came this far. A friend of my mine said something to me that reallyy "HIT ME!" I was having my doubts and i told her I wanted to cancel. She said " Where do youthink you will be 1 year from now without the surgery" I keot thinking, OMG shes Right. I would have probably been in a wheel chair b/c I was getting so big my feet couldnt take it. Shes also said "Do you wanna diet for the rest of your life?" Which No i didnt. I didnt wanna count every cal. every thing I bite into. Please read my profile. It will tell you Step by Step of what I went thru and what to expect. Its so worth it hun! If you need anything please email me! [email protected] K~ 273/198/145

I was scared before surgery and really doubted myself. I was also a smoker and quit a month before. I ate everything I wanted up until the day before surgery when I went on the clear liquid thing. Each doctor is different, but that was what mine said to do! It is worth it! Stay focused, positive and keep praying~ Holli

If you dont feel ready then move the surgery... you have waited this long whats a few more days or a week to get prepared??? I would be honest with your surgeons office about what you have been doing. Its extremely important they know if you havent followed the rules they set forth because you could be putting yourself in danger or causing them an issue. I think the decision should be between you and the surgeon so give them a call - if they give you the ok still then decide what you would like to do.