How do you???
Hey everyone! Ok, I'm having a rough day...I admit it. 
I was wondering for us twenty somethings how do you handle life after the weight loss. I'm 16 months out love my life and am happy. My issue is I've lost a lot of my friends. Granted I have not changed except size wise and I know ok they are not my true friends...ya ya that whole line. Honestly though they were my friends for over the majority of my life...now they are gone.
How do you deal with dating and attention that is now there that wasn't there before when you were heavy? Do you ever just get sick and tired of people constantly metioning your weight loss? Personally I'm tired of it! Ok, so I am half the person I was get over it and move on. I'm still the same personality wise, I still dress the same.
I guess I'm sick and tired of being the girl that got "hot"! I'm just Michelle just me and thats what I want to be seen as...not as gastric bypass girl. 
Ok well today's my 27th birthday
and my goal is to get my plastics this fall and move to a warmer climate and meet new people.
Sorry for whining
Michelle
339/186
I was wondering for us twenty somethings how do you handle life after the weight loss. I'm 16 months out love my life and am happy. My issue is I've lost a lot of my friends. Granted I have not changed except size wise and I know ok they are not my true friends...ya ya that whole line. Honestly though they were my friends for over the majority of my life...now they are gone.
How do you deal with dating and attention that is now there that wasn't there before when you were heavy? Do you ever just get sick and tired of people constantly metioning your weight loss? Personally I'm tired of it! Ok, so I am half the person I was get over it and move on. I'm still the same personality wise, I still dress the same.
I guess I'm sick and tired of being the girl that got "hot"! I'm just Michelle just me and thats what I want to be seen as...not as gastric bypass girl.
Ok well today's my 27th birthday and my goal is to get my plastics this fall and move to a warmer climate and meet new people.
Sorry for whining
Michelle
339/186 
You've changed more than just your size.... you've changed your whole life 
If your friends were overweight as well Im sure there are things you did together you no longer do. Go pig out at a buffet then go to Lane Bryant and shop... or make fun of the "twigs" at the mall. My best friend had surgery 4 years ago... we are still best friends but I know out relationship changed. She no longer wanted to go out and eat, wanted to start going to new places because she felt more comfortable etc. As for other people, I think its hard for people to deal with seeing somebody completely change their life and succeed. Doesnt matter if its losing weight, getting a PhD.... they may feel like they could never "accomplish" a goal like you?
As for constantly mentioning your weight loss... maybe try talking to people about it. Just say you appreciate their support and love hearing about how great you look but you just got tired of them mentioning the surgery*shrug*. Tell them just what you said above.. Im dont want to be "Michelle the gastricbypass girl" any more... I just want to be Michelle. Im sure they shouldnt have any problems with that!
If your friends were overweight as well Im sure there are things you did together you no longer do. Go pig out at a buffet then go to Lane Bryant and shop... or make fun of the "twigs" at the mall. My best friend had surgery 4 years ago... we are still best friends but I know out relationship changed. She no longer wanted to go out and eat, wanted to start going to new places because she felt more comfortable etc. As for other people, I think its hard for people to deal with seeing somebody completely change their life and succeed. Doesnt matter if its losing weight, getting a PhD.... they may feel like they could never "accomplish" a goal like you?
As for constantly mentioning your weight loss... maybe try talking to people about it. Just say you appreciate their support and love hearing about how great you look but you just got tired of them mentioning the surgery*shrug*. Tell them just what you said above.. Im dont want to be "Michelle the gastricbypass girl" any more... I just want to be Michelle. Im sure they shouldnt have any problems with that! Most Active
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