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I host a lot of holidays so that gives me the greatest degree of control.
BUT....
At someone else's house party, the best I can do is take a couple of dishes that I know are okay, and that others will love. I've tweaked my classic sweet potato dish to a sugar-free version. Ditto my fresh cranberry salad, and baked ricotta shuffle (which is higher in fat but better than a plate full of sugar!)
At work, my employer "generously" loads our break room with a horrifying array of sweets so that's harder. There is usually a veggie tray. But some days my best option is to take a short walk on my break or run an errand at lunchtime vs sit there with all those cookies.
I totally relate. I don't eat concentrated sweets, breads, pasta etc... but I too can be compulsive on anything. Almonds, celery, meat. I am a therapist and go to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders and continue to struggle. I wish I had answers. You are not alone!!!!
WOW!!! That's incredible!
"...This one a long time have I watched. All his life has he looked away, to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. What he was doing..."
Rachel, PMHNP-BC
HW-271 SW-260 LW(2009)-144 ~ Retread: HW-241 CW-190 GW-150
CONGRATS!!!!
"...This one a long time have I watched. All his life has he looked away, to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. What he was doing..."
Rachel, PMHNP-BC
HW-271 SW-260 LW(2009)-144 ~ Retread: HW-241 CW-190 GW-150
Awww so glad! I feel ya... I'm Italian... we have that Catholic guilt thing but this is too important.
You know too... what I've been doing is writing a note after... not email... handwritten heartfelt.... something you loved about the get together "you always make everyone feel so welcome, I loved your decorations,.." anything non-food so they get to know your new normal (not focused on eating) and that will soften any residual "did she have a good time, she didn't eat xyz, etc" thoughts.
They will get used to this new healthier you!
(From Eggface's link)
4. Learn to say "No Thank You" when offered non-weight loss surgery friendly items. "Oh Aunt Suzie thank you those look soooo good but I'm saving room for some of that *insert food you can eat* (Ideas: delicious turkey, cheese, veggie...)" and don't feel guilty about saying No. It's not your job to make everyone happy and certainly not at your health's expense.
This will be my new mantra until the holidays are over!
Out of every part of the year Oct-Jan are the most challenging about my eating. Summer is great because people love to BBQ meats so I can easily say no thanks and stick with protein. But when folks bring out their 'treats' (even the ones I don't actually care for) I get into my headspace and feel obliged to taste it.
My biggest thing is never feeling hungry or even desiring the food...It's the immense sense of obligation I feel to accept each person's invitation to try their food. It's the burning inside my heart if I have to say 'no thanks' when they offer.
Today I am remembering that my health is my priority, not someone else's emotion. After all, my emotions matter too; and I want to be happy in my healthy body!!
THANKS for posting this Eggface. Your website is AWESOMELY inspiring.
Marie.
OMG you are me.... 30 lbs... tight clothes, feel disgusting but having trouble fixing... Ugh.... Good luck.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! What a wonderful job you have done!
HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125
RW:190 - CW:130
Tammy this is AMAZING! Congratulations!
HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125
RW:190 - CW:130
Doc has me on protonix once a day and Zantac twice a day. It has helped,a lot. I also eat small meals 6 times a day instead of 3 meals. That way the acid doesn't have as much time to build up without anything to lower it. Watch acidic foods - I can't eat anything with tomatos in it. Ketchup is tomato and vinegar which is BAD.
My surgeon has mentioned a revision on RNY, But I like being able to take NSAIDs. I am on anti inflammatory meds now and refuse to give them up :)
HW:292 / SW:258 / CW 173.9
