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Just curious about how pregnancy went after vsg. I had a horrible pregnancy when I was morbidly obese. Are there any special tests? Any info is great! Thanks. Btw...I am not pregnant. Just hope to be next year.
I would go see a nutritionist who works with bariatric surgery patients before deciding whether to go back on liquids/protein shakes. You have so many things going on and you probably need a step by step plan and professional consultation about what to do with regard to any drastic changes in eating. I second the advice to find a good therapist to work with, again someone experienced at working with bariatric patients. And also, you are your husband's wife, not his employee! If you do not want to cook fried food for him every night, then don't be willing to! He can try healthier alternatives (baked versions, for example) and if he doesn't want it, oh well....You are feeling like you don't have any choices but you DO! You may not like the scary thought of making someone else unhappy, but meanwhile you are hurting yourself and you deserve better. Relationships. Sending a virtual hug of support.
Cathy G.
Fantastic. I am so looking into this! Thanks.
"Free your ass, and your mind will follow." HW - 287, Start W - 273, Surgery W - 257, Onederland - 4 months 1 week post op, 100 lbs lost - 8 months 1 week, CW - 162
Therapy or a support group would be a good start, as would a serious talk with your saboteur of a husband. Your husband is not entitled to tell you what you can and can't do. Why is what he wants more important than what you need? You only get one life. Don't waste it! Please, please try to see someone you talk this through with.
"Free your ass, and your mind will follow." HW - 287, Start W - 273, Surgery W - 257, Onederland - 4 months 1 week post op, 100 lbs lost - 8 months 1 week, CW - 162
Thank you to ALL of you that have read & responded to my post. It was tough to write. Yes, a therapist is a solid positive next move. I agree to that. Time to get to the root of "why" I'm doing this. Although deep down I know it's because I'm SO very angry & keep it stuffed down. Smile, be pleasant, do what is expected of me. There are so many resentments inside. I don't want to work 11 hour days, or cook & then SERVE, then clean up... I don't want to be walked on, taken for granted, used. Strange how I'm using food to comfort myself. Food to try & fill up that emptiness I have. Naturally I can't eat the foods I used to before the surgery. I don't eat just a whole lot even now. I'm eating the WRONG foods. And those cokes are my favorite crutch!! Liquid calories... yes I know. I know!! But I keep drinking them anyway! It's insane. Depression... yep, I will admit to that as well. I'm pretty much a mess. Losing the weight made me feel good about me. I surprised myself all the time with unexpected little events. I could cross my legs. I could get in the car & actually set my bottle of water between my legs like a cup holder when my hands were full. That was a huge shocker!! My blouse hung down instead of out. I miss that Cindy. I need a therapist! Say a prayer you guys that I'll find the right one, can afford it, can go without missing work, the weight will come OFF, my meds will balance with no side effects to overcome, & I'll cheer up! Whew... you people have your prayer time cut out for you. I need a lot of help.
In the mean time I have one last question tonight. Do you think I should give up ALL FOOD & liquids too.... go back on protein drinks alone? In other words, start completely over. Back to square one?
What a gift to be able to eat 2000 a day and maintain at 138lbs!!! Are you very active? I certainly can make changes like exercising and weights but I have always remained "big" although there have been lots of periods in my life where I have been incredibly regulary exercising and active. I hate claiming this, but I am simply a fat girl at 2000 calories.
Before your bypass could you have been 138lbs at 2000 calories? I am going to track every morsal again to see where I am at.
Best,
Layla
3/30/2005 Lap Band installed 12/20/2010 Lap Band REMOVED
6/6/2011 Vertical SLEEVE Gastrectomy
I am not a doctor but it sounds like depression to me. You are doing things for everyone else and it is time to do things for Cindy now. Maybe you should check into seeing someone to help with that. Keep us updated.
that is an interesting question! I work the 12 steps with an e-mail sponsor. I use therecoverygroup.com website to participate in a quarterly step study. I got a plan of eating from a dietician who works with my surgeon. I pray, meditate and read program literature daily. I do a nightly check in with my sponsor each night, giving her my honest food for that day, address any issues/struggles that came up for me that day, and listing my gratitudes. I think more importantly than how we work a program is just our willingness to be open to suggestions.
Blessings, Jill
WLS 5/31/07. Maintaining a weight loss of 141 pounds and feeling amazing!
i'm four years out from being sleeved and over the last year i've developed quite a few food allergies. eggs make me sick now but i used to eat them daily without problems. i can eat egg whites, though. gluten, too. some but not all dairy. i just seem to be very sensitive in general.
Sleeved: October 13, 2010 LW: 175 HW: 330 Current: 220
