I have seen it work out for two out of three couples that I know that have had it.  They were able to be supportive to be other, able to eat the same things at the same time, and understand more what each other were going through.  In the third couples case, the husband had major complications and the wife was not physically well enough to provide the extra care he needed.  It cost them majorly to have to hire a nurse to come in and care for him.  He ended up resenting his wife for healing faster and progressing faster than he did, and it ended up causing major problems in their marriage.  They are still together, but he still has some resentment.  

hi all i am  from elmira,ny  i do need help bad. i had a baby in october and now i am out of control . i am now a little over 200 pounds i want to be back to 143 pounds.. help..... please....  i had rny aug. 28 , 2003   anita

God bless you and your strength!  Please do not be ashamed about your weight regain.  I have regained and haven't had near as many obstacles as you have.  Get well and follow the advice of your doc!

I'm glad that you're back to OH too so we can support you with everything you've got going on.

The first thing you need to lose is any shame for regain.  It happens because life happens.  You aren't alone in the regain area.  Many of us have experienced regain - I have....twice and I had nothing going on that you have.  Please, please lose the shame, you have nothing to be shamed of.

The first priority is to take care of yourself with the cancer.  Talk to your oncologist or any physician familiar with your medical care to find out their recommendations as far as losing weight and what/how to eat (food choices).  Eating to be healthy and strong for cancer treatments is a priority.  You can deal with the weight regain anytime.  My guess is that whatever foods they want you to eat will help, or at least maintain, weight.

Congratulations on your third little one.  A special affirmation of life.  

Lastly, consider joining the Back On Track Together OH group.  Yes, we talk about regain but it will be another place that you can be supported.  

Sending healthy hugs to you...

You've got a lot on your plate right now, don't be ashamed of the regain, life happens, at least you're trying to get back to business. Please check with your dr b4 starting with the weight loss regime again. You might have to concentrate on maintaining for now till you're cancer free.

If your dr clears you for weight loss, ck with your nutritionist on how to go about it, some foods we eat or avoid now may not be good for you while undergoing cancer treatment, so there might be foods you need that we generally avoid.

Congrats on the new baby! Wishing you the best & a healthy recovery.