Really Discouraged!

Yes it's always hard to ask for help and it's so easy to put everyone else first. HOWEVER, now is the time to grab the bull by the horns and let it know you're in charge now and to heck with cruisin' along. We're here for ya!

Lelina, I'm not as far out as you are, but I to deal with a challenge every day....it seems like once I hit my 1 year anniversary, food started consuming my thoughts on a regular basis. It's really work now to make good choices, I don't dump and although I never thought of myself as a "sweet" eater for the most part pre-op, I want sugar now, I have to keep it away or I'll catch myself taking a bite or two. I also feel hunger now, I miss the early days of forcing myself to eat protein. I really can't offer you good suggestions, but wanted to say if you live close enough to Cy-Fair Hospital, we have a support group that meets monthly at 7:00 p.m. on the second Tuesday of each month. If you are interested, please let me know and I can get you in touch with the Bariatric Coordinator at the hospital. Don't give up, you can do this, you've come too far already to give up. Best wishes, Dana

Hi Dana! We live in the same neck of the woods! The support group at Cy-Fair hospital actually sounds good, but I don't know if I'm ready yet. My father spent a lot of time there dying from lung cancer before he finally passed four months ago. I just have a lot of bad memories associated with that hospital. Maybe with time I'll feel differently! Maybe we could meet up one of these days, though. E-mail me if you like, and we could exchange phone numbers. Thank you for your support! Lelina

Lelina, Don't worry about all the posts about censoring and banning. That's always going to come up, can't please everyone. The site is for support and that's what you need at this point. We don't live in your house so we don't know what you might be doing wrong.. It sounds like what you are saying you are doing right. What I would suggest is make a schedule. That's helped me out. I MUST exercise this time and sometimes as much as I hate it I do it. I'll be thinking I could do this or that, but I HAVE TO DO IT. I know if I go one day without not doing it, I'll stop. So I'm constantly on my own back about it. Write down what you are really eating, are you fully aware of your calories in and exercise. Don't guess, really write it down. It will help you see where you might be going wrong, maybe you are getting in too much. Catch this while you can, because the sad reality is as we get even more down the road it only can become harder, you've done the right thing be doing something now. You've got the tool, just have to find the nitch to use it. Look at all the support you've got Amy

Hi Amy! I am truly overwhelmed by all of the support that this post has generated - I am so grateful! Unfortunately, I know EXACTLY what I'm doing wrong. Too much food, too many bad carbs, grazing, sugar, not enough exercise - all of which spell diet disaster! It almost feels like I'm watching a train wreck sometimes. I know what I NEED to do to get back on track, but I feel totally powerless over the food again. That's why I'm screaming for help at this point. I need to feel motivated again. I'm not trying to use this as a cop out, but since my father died nothing seems worth the effort. I KNOW I'm depressed, and I'm trying to work through it. I just hope that this is a temporary bump in the road, and that I'll start to feel more like my "old" self with time. Thanks again for the advise! Lelina

Lelina, You know what you've done wrong now comes the hard part trying to change, that's really hard when you are depressed and stressed. Things will get better, just don't allow yourself to get too low. Amy

Lelina, I also feel like the battle getting harder to tackle. I have played with the same few pounds for almost 6 mos now and I am getting so tired. I do try hard to make the good choices, exercise and do my vitamins and water intake. Some days are better than others..And other days....well lets just leave it at that I am sure you know what I mean! I am throwing you a lifeline! Regis only gives three but I think we need more! I have a spare its yours! Each day is a new day. You can do it! Just remember you got what it takes...you are a success! Debbie

Thank you for the lifeline Debbie! I really appreciate your kind words. I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I've got a lot of "stuff" going on right now, but hey, so does everybody. I feel incredibly guilty sometimes for wallowing in these negative feelings. Other people seem so much better at dealing with stress and adversity. I've been following your progress for a long time, BTW, and you are truly an inspiration! Thank you for your support! Lelina

I hope your day today is better. Just checking in on you! Thank you for your kind words....It made my day that someone has been watching over me! Glad to have you on my side! Us Grads definitely have to stick together! Debbie

Hi, Lelina! I'm so glad you posted this here today. I agree, it is really hard to admit that we need some help and to then ask for it! Good for you - and that's what we're all here for. When I come anywhere on this site, I ignore the "drama" at all costs, and try to get to the "real" posts, just like yours here. We all struggle now, and I'm sure none of us realized how hard it would be as we get further and further out. During that "magic" time that we all had, it was difficult to realize and accept that it would come to an end! But it has, and we're more normal now (whatever that is), and we have to find ways to deal with regain, maintenance, and finding a comfortable place to be. Please remember not to be overly hard on yourself. One thing I think most of us should NOT do is think that the lowest weight we attain is where we're going to stay. That would be unrealistic (although there are a few who do maintain very low weights, but I don't think that represents the majority of us). Also remember that most surgeons tell us there will be some "bounce-back" regain. Having said that, there are things that we all know we must do, like exercise, healthy eating, taking our vits, getting our labs done regularly, and generally staying "on top" of our health. You can do this, Lelina, I know you can! Please let us know how you're doing - and thanks for a good post! Best wishes, Carlita