Here's a good compliment!
I just enjoyed a visit with my sister who lives in London. We haven't seen each other for five years (way too long) so she hasn't seen me post-op. I am down 176 pounds. Amongst my six siblings I am the only one who became morbidly obese. She was always supportive of me during the two decades I struggled. Still, always being the fat one and feeling those "sister" feelings I suppose, caused me to ask my husband the day she arrived - "does this outfit look good......in other words does this make me look thin?" His response "you are thin. You don't have to even think that anymore, because you can't look fat. You aren't." I haven't struggled too much with body image issues (though I still buy things way too big, wear it once and realize by the end of the day that it is too big and know I wasted money) as in seeing fat that isn't there, but it felt so freeing for him to say that.
My sister's main comment that stood out to me is that I am glowing. That does describe how it feels these days. Life is good!
Patty
P.S. I chose not to tell anyone about my surgery other than my husband. About two months post-op this sister called me from London and said "I'm so glad about your surgery". My mind was trying to grasp what she might be talking about?!? It ends up in a moment of being homesick and bored she googled my name. No one in my family has even used the term obese and I never in a million years thought anyone in my life would stumble on this site. When she googled up came my profile with every account of pre-op and post-op detail. It ended up being kind of a good way for her to learn all about it. She was up late at night and never dreamed anything would really come up - maybe my participation in my school's P.T.A. She was shocked! I guess we all have to be aware of this cyber world we live in. It never occurred to me to use a fake name. At this point I don't really care if I'm "found out"
HI Patty! I know EXACTLY what you mean. If I'm going somewhere were I will see "whoever" and I want to make sure I look good (ie: thin, LOL) I try to dress for the occasion. It has never occured to me that I look "thin" in pretty much everything. I'm still back in my old mindset of wearing what I think looks the best to try to look as small as possible and not stand out so much in the crowd. I was so used to being the biggest person in the room and now its hard to imagine that I'm just normal, like alot of other people in the room and sometimes I'm the smallest person in the room~that's just crazy! I still mental don't get the fact that I wear a size 8~I see the tags in the clothes, I put the clothes on, but I just don't get it~I can't make the connection between my body and my mind to make myself believe it. As someone here at OH once said "I will always have a 328lb woman sitting on my shoulder"~that was an eye opening statement to me b/c that's exactly how I feel!!!!!! Anyway, I'm so happy that you had such a nice visit and that your sister has been so supportive! That's wild how she googled your name though~scary in a way! Well, keep glowing! You Look Great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tracy B
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