Y am i doin this.... the bad part is i cant stop...

k i am almost 2 yrs out and i have a problem... i can do my eating/exercisin schedule til 3pm then after that i turn into a damn vaccum ... i suck everything up that i can get into my mouth... in the last 3 wks i have gained 12 lbs.... and i hae went from a 8 to blowin out the a$$ of my 10s to movin on up to 12s.... What is wrong with me... its like this timer goes off in my head at 3pm and says eat eeat eeeeeat.... i tried doin nothin bu****er or decaf tea at 3pm and then here cam the beef jerky and popcorn .... i am so pissed bc of this... ohhhh and so superman says take some pills that will curb ur appitite ..UMMMMM i did that today and NOT WORKING... i am so mad at mydelf that i could just sit and cry.... i just had a TT in oct and i already have a bulge of a fat roll... i can see it now i am gonna be one of those that cant even do this right ... i took out my frustration on my elliptical today and did 30 min hard core then did walk away the lbs... then cleaned the house i mean on the floor with a brush cleanin.... if ya all have any ideas please feel free to let me know... bc the kind words that i am gettin from people arent workin ...yes they make me feel good but they are cuttin it.... sorry i just needed to vent.... i am suppose to have thighplasty on the 17th and i dont even feel that i deserve it anymore.... i feel like a waste of time to my surgeon and everyone that has ever helped me.... Sorry i just ad to vent

Hi Superlady. I think you are just human and going through a hard time. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all struggle now that we are graduates, you just need to ask for help and give it a go. I was a dovote Weigh****cher member and remember the best thing my leader told me. You are a success just by showing up at the meetings. It means you really want this. For you, you are a success by asking for help here. I have been curbing my food deamons as well and have just started using something on the internet called fitday.com I am writing in everything that goes into my mouth and have found that everything has a calorie (DUH) and I have actually been eating more than I think. You know, a bite here, a nibble there, etc. You may try to go in there and jot down everything you eat. You may find that you are eating all your calories in one sitting instead of saving some for after 3 p.m. I have also discovered a gadget called the Magic Bullet, which is like a blender. I buy frozen peaches or strawberries, put lots of splenda, a little water, and blend them until it looks like sorbet and I snack on that at night. If feel like I am cheating and having ice cream. It's really good. Anyway, you can do it. You have the tool, you just need to work it. Tweak it to see where it goes. Don't give, you are not a failure. Hang in there. Hugs, Missy.

could the upcoming surgery be stressing you more than you realize? Stress always made me eat. I know for myself, when I get in those "eat everything that ain't tacked down" modes, the only solution is to stay very very busy or get the heck out of the house. Go wander the mall, do something, anything but shove food in your face. I know, easier said than done. I think we're gonna fight this fight till the day we die.

I can totally relate! For some reason, I can eat well all day long and then lose it between 3-4 p.m. I am still an emotional eater, and I have figured out that there are several reasons why I do this (keep in mind, this JUST me, and may not apply to YOU)! 1) This is the time of day that I get back home from my job at a preschool, and from picking up my kids at school. I'm usually stressed, tired and hungry. I feel like I "deserve" some "me" time, and I start mindlessly grazing while I get the kids their snacks, go through backpacks, get them set up with their homework, etc. 2) My husband and I are having some problems, and I think I subconsciously start dreading that he will be home soon, and I stuff myself to ease my anxiety. I'm still struggling with this, so I may not be the best person to give you advise, but I find that if I eat a fairly substantial planned snack (like 1/2 sandwich or peanut butter on a whole grain english muffin) I can fill myself up and actually end up consuming fewer calories than if I mindlessly graze for half an hour. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't, but it might be worth giving a try. I'm really frustrated by my behavior also. I've gained 20 pounds from my original goal weight of 145 and more than 30 pounds from my all-time low weight of 132. I've gone from a size 4/6 to a size 10, and I'm less than thrilled. Please try not to beat yourself up (I know, easier said than done!) and know that you are not alone in your struggles! Lelina 298/165 (looking for 145 again!)

Stop beating yourself up!! This is probably half the reason why you continue to sabotage yourself! You've made your mistakes, just don't let those food demons and guilty thoughts take you over. You can do this, you are strong! On the eating side, I have become acutely aware of how what I eat affects everything else I eat. CARBS want more carbs. Are you eating carbs earlier in the day? I have found that when I eat the bad carbs (breads, especially), I am chewing my arm off 2 hours later, uncontrollably eating crap everwhere. Usually followed up by more carbs. For the past week I've been avoiding the carbs, and I found- less snacking throughout the day. Give it a try, go ahead and snack, and I don't think the beef jerky is a bad idea at all (if your sodium is ok), just make sure it's stuff that's ok for you, and count those calories. Go beat up your elliptical some more at 3pm. And keep your chin up, good luck. Michelle

Hey chickie, I talked to my doc about this and he said when it gets to this point you have to call a time out. A time out is liquid and protein shakes only. I am on day 2 of this. I have been eating like a mad woman. Up to 2400 cals on Saturday, time to call a halt. I haven't gained, but I want to put a stop to it now. Time for you to call a time out. You have done an awesome job, the exercise is key, so keep at it. Time to get back on the wagon girl! I am offering you a helping hand to pull you up. Hugs, Bridget

Oh My lovely Amanda, It made me sad to read this. You are such a success. DOn't ever feel like a failure or doubt yourself. I did nbot know you before WLS. ao I do not know if you are a stress emotional eater. But hon come on look what is on your plate! (life plate) You got PS coming up, STILL awaiting orders... them wanting to redo housing... STILL waiting for orders. It could very well be stress. I wish I knew how to tell you to stop the eating or grazing. But One thing i will say.. is PLEASE do not snap and stop eating all together.. take it from a PRO it will mess your metabolism more than doing any damn good! I think once you are back in NC, and in a home and happy and surronded by familiar places and faces and what you know things will look up! and if not... I will be MUCH closer to come and kick your A$$. So take your pic! And you know I am always here and will never pass any judement on you. I know im rambling blarble nonsense... I love you.. a failure you are not. so never think that! NY is to far for me to go right now... but im thinkin about come to visit and kick your butt... I dont care if its day after thighs... I will get ya!

On a normal work day ( I work 3rd shift) my graze time is 11-12noon before I go to bed and I can do alot of damage eatting a few bites of this and a few bites of that. For the rest of my life I will have to deal with food issues and the fact that I like to eat. I know it is free time and boredom. You are not a waste of time. But I wonder if you relaxed some thinking the plastic surgery will balance out a few pounds? I had those thoughts for a week before mine, but knowing I couldn't exercise for some time afterwards kept me in check. Ya know fitday works for some but it is not an immediate visual aid, it's an end of the day oops I ate too much reminder. Get a journal, leave it in the kitchen by the fridge. If you grab something write it down, EACH time. Get a calorie counter book, write the calories next to the food. As you see the food items add up maybe it will help you make a different or better choice or even put it back and go find something else to do. I am in no way saying my journal keeps me from standing in front of my fridge and grabbing food, but it very much helps me decide which item I eat at what part of the day based on the calorie goal I set for myself. Some days are better than other. My journals are proof, I have been keeping track since day one, I am into my 4th little book. Currently I am home and its day 8 post Lower body lift and I did not lose my appetitie at all past the first day LOL. Worse yet 24 hours of being stuck in the house in close proximity of the fridge....and my mother was here for the first 6. We actually got along great this time but her grocery shopping put more food in the house than I normally buy and too many choices got me. One day I grazed to the turn of 2500 calories on fruits and sugar free puddings and wheat bread and stupid healthy stuff because it was there. She left friday, and I garbage disposaled a box of shredded wheat, a box of weigh****chers ice cream, bag of punes, bannanas, half loaf of bread and I had my best friend take away the plums and peaches. I'm better now...my choices are back to normal - meat, cottage cheese, yogurt, protein drinks, apples, and raisens, carrots, cheese.... I know you have a family and getting rid of food they eat will not work, but maybe putting thier high carb products in a seperate cabinet so you do not see them when you go looking for food might help? Carbs are really the devil, they slide right in and right out and bring on the crave for more. For me I buy already cooked fat free turkey or ham and divide it into 6oz serving ziplocs and when I look in the fridge I can talk myself into eatting those dipped in some kind of bbq or dressing. It's protein, it's filling, then there is less room for the grazing. One day at a time, but grab control now. Eliminate something from the house. Change one pattern. Start gradually, you can do it. Everyone here has a story, has been there in some way. Keep track in a journal, post here everyday. Find a game on pogo.com that you can become addicted too that will keep you here and not in the kitchen. Drink..no not alcohol! I hate water but I found these strawberry flavored aquacals at walmart that are awesome, I have been drinking more water than decaf coffee since I found them. They curb the sweet crave. I dunno if I helped any, but I wish you luck and I look forward to your next post and your renewed effort to work the tool. Oh and the diet pills...you did not have this surgery to take pills. More than likey you are not "hungry" when you graze so a supposed hunger suppressant will not help you. Don't waste your money or the thoughts of failure on a pill. Fill your pouch with solid food 4-6 times a day at 3 hour intervals...try leaving no room for grazing...and drink fluids between. Back to basics No bashing, no yelling, just my thoughts and suggestions. Good Luck Chin Up Good luck on yout Thigh surgery. I swear my thighs are growing.....my LBL incision goes all the way around my body, the drains are in my thighs and mons...will fluid collect in my thighs? It might be that since I am hunched over and the skin rolls are gone I just see them better...sigh. My thigh surgery will be my last, I plan on boobs, then arms, then thighs. Michelle sorry I do babble on and on I have my follow up apt tommorrow...I'll update after.

Hi, Wow, if I could do all THAT, I wouldn't graze! Thanks for the tips which I enjoyed reading. And I, took, wish superman's wife all the best. And you too, michelle.

This is so common among us all. I have been going through the same thing. A few months ago, I gained back about 6 pounds. I have since lost it plus a couple of more because I finally found what works for me. I think you just have to write down every little thing that goes in and keep up with the pinches, licks, and bites too. Look for a trend. I, like you, could do perfect, but then let 3 or 4 in the afternoon hit and it is like I had a split personality and the fat ass took over at that point of the day. I found that I was eating too little early on, and then by 3 or 4 after a very full day and a very hard day my body was needing something. So, I still eat 6 times per day but I have changed up when I eat what meal. Like, I eat my normal breakfast, two small snacks, and then save my lunch for 3:00 pm. when I am most likely to start blowing it. I then may have a piece of fruit and eat a later dinner. This helped me get through that hard time. Hang in there. You know you have issues and you are trying to fix it. Maybe see a counselor or nutritionists too. Good luck and know we feel your pain and are here for you to vent to anytime. Melissa