Anyone else have problems like this???

Just tell me am i a nut or what.... K so heres the thing Superman is losi wt and thats good... but now i am findin a challenge in that...Ya see this is the first time that i have ever been smaller then him... and i want to keep it that way but he is insistin on losin another 15 lbs or so.... SO now i am convinced that i am gonna lose 15-20 lbs or so... does any of this make sence??? i mean i am happy at my wt ...but i just dont want to lose the "im smaller then the hubby thing" please tell me that someone knows where i am commin from??? OHHH and hes cheating hes usin relacore and all i can say is that its working for him... but then again i guess i am cheating then too bc i am havin skin whacked off... K so do i continue the challenge to stay smaller or do i just give up and let him lose down to my wt????

Its so funny that you say this because my DH was always about 170 and as I lost weight he gained some. I am 160 now and he is about 190. I LOVE that he gained weight and has a little belly because it makes me feel smaller. He is in good health and is still underweight as far as I am concerned -- but I completely understand where you are coming from. If he really wanted to lose the weight though I would support him -- its his health and happiness with his body, too - and really, the scale just reads a number, not how you feel in your skin. If he supported you through your weight loss, I would return the same support. Just ask that he always stay atleast 1 pound above you! kristin

I do understand where you're coming from on this. Since I've known him, my hubby has always been around 175-185, and he does fluctuate a bit. When we met I weighed around 235 and then gained up to over 260. Well, when I lost weight and got "under" his weight it was a great feeling. I could even wear his jeans, and that was very cool! Well, I have re-gained a bit of weight, so we're almost the same weight, even though he still weighs a bit more than me. Now he's been talking about needing to lose "a few" and I'll admit it kind of bothers me that he might get lower than me again. But really, it's still all good! I feel good at the weight I'm at, and I like the way I look, so I'm going to try not to obsess about it at all. I would really like to get a few off myself, but if it doesn't happen, I won't freak out or anything. Try to remember how far you've come and don't worry about a few pounds.

Just a word regarding dieting at the same time as hubby... they loose faster, I have been going to Weigh****chers so that hubby could loose weight, since his high protien diet wasn't working, and he would not go by himself...he's lost 16 to my 5. I told the lady who weighs us in the first night it would take my just as long to loose 10# to my husbands 40, she said I was right. Makes me so mad, he eats so much more than I do..of course but he's having a bag of popcorn and ice cream every night. Angie

I have the opposite problem. My husband has gained about 30 pounds in the last year and I want him desparately to lose it. I've worked so hard to get my weight down and I don't want him ballooning up. I feel so ashamed because he loved me at 350+ pounds and never once said a word to me about my weight. Yet I feel less attracted to him because of his gained weight. I love my husband and would never leave him over weight issues, but it does affect our love life and my desire for him. I won't ride him about his weight, because I would've died if he had done that to me. I just want him to be smaller too. I want us both to be small!

You say you are happy with your weight where it is? I think that trying to reach a goal that may be unrealistic will be very frustrating. The other big factor is, you will want to maintain. Don't get caught up in a competition. the only reason to lose weight is if you really want to do it for YOU! Be happy!