ot/ Very confused with life

Hi Michelle, Thanks for the response, I am on meds have been for year. And you are right the happiness needs to come from within. Thanks again, Melissa

Melissa, I know this will seem "off the wall," But I mean it sincerely. Have an affair ON Your Therapist. See another Psychologist / Psychiatrist on the side. "back in therapy with a therapist I have seen on and off for the past 6yrs" You're still having same old problems? What hasn't changed in that time? The Psych. Cheat on him/her. At least you'll get some fresh therapy And not the same old merry-go-round. Even if you just add the new ideas to the old ones It may offer a fresh perspective And opportunity for change. Just a shot in the dark from me. What ever you do, I hope the Best for you. Best Wishes- Dx

Hi Dx I have a call into to my bariatric clinic for a referral to someone who deals with weight loss issues...everyone here seems to agree to ditch the therapist. In his defense he was my husbands therapist, my husband is a recovered drug addict/alcholic and he is the therapist at the treatment program, I started seeing him because of that, he knows that I have always had problems w/hubby for obvious reasons. Anyway new therapist on the way, lol..... Thanks so much for responding, it means alot, Melissa

Hi Melissa! I know I am late responding to your post, but I just wanted to let you know that it really struck a chord with me. Your post could have been written by me. It's so nice to know that there are others out there who feel this way too. I guess I've been searching for happiness my whole life too, but I've never really found it. I think that is why I'm struggling with a 20 pound weight gain right now, and with problems in my marriage. I really don't know why I feel this way. My husband is a "nice" guy too. I'm just not happy, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't think I was ever so naive to think that having surgery and losing weight would magically make all of my problems disappear, but I guess I did think I would be happier with my life overall. I think I'm feeling kind of let down right now in that regard. Anyway, sorry to ramble. I know what I just wrote doesn't help you any, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. Please feel free to e-mail me any time if you want to "talk". Lelina

Melissa, Estrogen is stored in fat and when we lose weight , we lose those hormones I have read. Our moods , feeling etc are governed by hormones so if this is true is stands to reason I would think that some of us ( ME TOO ) will have feelings of unhappy and not sure why and for no reason we can see. I have a wonderful partner who is kind , caring, loving etc, the kind honestly most dream about having , yet I feel a sadness , something lacking etc feeling that I cant shake. I ONLY AQUIRED this after my surgery 27 months ago. Actually is happened gradually over time so not sure how to fix , if it can be fixed. My DR put me on an estrogen patch ,lowest dose possible and it has helped some. I still am not back to where I was . I was married 23 years ( HORRIBLE MARRIAGE )and then divorced him a few years before I had the surgery . THe new man in my life is wonderful and we have plans to marry someday . I am the one who puts in the SOMEDAY due to this feeling I have as in many days not feeling happy. Has NOTHING to do with him , its like I am lacking the feeling og happiness and dont know where it went . I wonder just how many others are feeling it too ... Please respond if any of you are as I want to know if it is just a few of us or if maybe the hormone thing could be a factor. I hope you are feeling some better today. Shirl