Been Gone A While...

I've been gone for a while. Not sure if I was even missed, but oh well, that's not why I post. My beloved father died of lung/liver cancer on December 13 2005. It was very traumatic for me, and I've been having a very hard time coping for the last couple of months. My food has been out of control and my weight is up to 164 pounds (my highest was all the way up to 170 pounds). I'm trying to regain control, but some days are harder than others. I know what I need to do, it's just hard to actually do it. Any support would be greatly appreciated. Lelina

I am so sorry for your loss....just wanted to let you know I would be thinking about you and getting back on here posting each day what your eating and just chattin with the gang might be the best...Hang in there and I will say a prayer for you!!!

(((( HUGS )))) Sorry for your loss. When words alone cannot resolve the hurt in your heart, your accomplishments will do more for helping you through these difficult times. Look to yourself and find your inner strength. Look to those around you for emotional support. Many blessings, Karen G

Hi Lelina ... it's good to have you back ... so sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathies to you. I know the thought of my parents passing freaks me out. I think its great you're reaching out for help about your food issues ... I think this is a great place for support. Tooter has a "Keeping it Honest" thread here everyday to post what you eat for the day (I hope she continues it ... one of these days I plan to start posting there too!) ... that might be helpful. Anyway, welcome back! Karyn

{{{{{{{{{Lelina}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry! There are no adequate words. We are here for you!!! Be nice to yourself. This hasn't been the usual cir****tances and it's normal to get off track on a lot of things during difficult/sad/grieving times. Let us know what we can do for you! Hugs, Vanessa

Hi Lelina, I am so sorry to hear about your loss... I understand as my Dad has passed also.... It was very traumatic for me too and I had no idea how to let go of my grief..... Food was comforting but only for a few hours.... To help me express my grief, I started taking flute lessons and played daily... it really helped express my emotions and it really helped take my mind off food... Good luck to you... Laurie - minus 175 lbs!!

Lelina, First let me offer my condolences on the loss of your father. My father passed in 1998 after a long battle with cancer. I weighed almost 240 lbs when my dad died and think how proud he would be of me today if he was here to see me. He always worried about my health with the weight I carried. I am sure your father felt the same way. Maybe that can help you to get back on track, knowing he is looking down on you and offering his support also. Another thing that helped me during that time was a group on the web of people who were going through the same thing. It was a group at John Hopkins. It may help you to talk to others that are going through the same thing. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs, Bridget

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I went through the same thing when my mom was in the hospital going through the dying process with Alzehimer's. I knew I was eating for comfort and because I just didn't have time to take care of me. Finally after a couple of weeks I said enough and found a way to take care of her and myself at the same time. I had to go on all protein for a few days to prove to myself that I was in control and get the carbs out of my system. Then I was able to get back into my normal routine. You've taken the first step by coming here, you will get back on track. Just forgive yourself for what's in the past and start over tomorrow. If you get off track tomorrow start over the next meal. You know how to do it, you've been successful at this already. Let us know how you are doing.

so sorry for your loss, I hope you find the strength to love yourself enough during this time of grief.............. gratitude is my attitude AmandaDS October 2001 highest >350/342 start of wls journey/163 @goal & new muscles

Hi Lelina, I too have been gone for a while. It is nice to be back and taking the time to read all the supportive messages, it really does help doesn't it? So very sorry about your Dad, lost mine to cancer too two months before my surgery. It is hard to think about what you are supposed to do when you feel so sad, maybe try something to take your mind to a different place. I don't know if you have ever done scrapbooking, but when our Dad was dying, my sisters and I found pics from when my Dad was a baby up until the day he died. We enlisted the help of aunts and friends to get some of the earlier pics. We made a beautiful album about his life. It made me laugh and cry and also realize that his was a life very well lived and somehow that made my sense of loss easier to cope with. It was so nice to see how much he had accomplished in his 71 years, he was just an average, simple man that had an extraordinary life... I'm sure yours did too. Hope this might help, Lisa