I have never posted, but lurked for years..please help me!!
Hi, My name is Tammy. I have nver posted, however I have lurked for years. I consider myself friends to so many because I've watched from afar. I will be 3 years post op proximal RNY (on 5/14/03 -- 250 pounds @ the time of surgery). I am very happily married to Ben for almost 15 years and have a great 11 year old son named Nick. I have been almost obsessively watching the main boards for years ( about 1 prior to surgery) and now am on the grads board for more than 1 year. Recently, I have had about a 25 pound weight gain (which is so embarrassing to me!!) But even more recently, I've been feeling very sad and depressed. We moved to Florida a year and a half ago, when I was alittle more than a year post op. I haven't really found great people here and thought that that was the problem, however, it seems like more than that. I cry alot and am very uptight and shaky. I have not been to a doctor since we moved here. Before our move, my B12 was borderline low, and now I feel it is very low. I have an apppointment on Thursday with a PCP. I was upset to let Ben know how sad I felt, but this weekend I told him and he says let's fix this. I thought the surgery would fix everything, but now I am faced with this new dilemma. I am hoping it is vitamins, but if it is depression, has anyone else faced this at this point post op? I appreciate everyones feedback and feel like you are all my family for years, so please help me, even though I am only a lurker until now!!
Welcome to the grad board!! There is nothing wrong with admitting you are a lurker, we have all "lurked" at some point. Don't be embarrassed about the weight gain or the depression. I have gone through this at many different stages, I am currently 4 years out of RNY and still have bouts of depression. Right now I am battling extremely low Potassium levels and I am working two jobs and just bought a condo and my second job is messing with my hours so I don't know if I can pay all my bills or not. We all have our issues. I am glad your husband is behind you and willing to help you "fix it." Go to the doctor, find out what is wrong and try to deal with it and remember that we are always here to help, to listen, to offer suggestions, whatever you want.
Again, welcome to the Grad Board!
Tammy - You had surgery a week after I did. I'm more or a lurker than a poster too, but I'm having the same problem as you with the weight gain. I'm not now, nor have I ever experienced the type of depression you referred to so I can't address that. You really need to tell it all to your PCP. I am, however, in the same boat with the regain - mine is about 20 lbs, and I'm quite unhappy about it. I just started seeing an eating disorder specialist - have had only 1 visit, at which time she told me to keep a journal of everything I eat, including the reasons (feelings surrounding) why I ate it. I go back in two weeks. I wish I had done this 15 pounds ago, before it got so out of hand. I know what my problem is - too damned many white carbs. I know they are addictive on me and that I should severely limit them, or just do without them entirely, and stick to a limited amount of whole grains. That is easier said than done when you're addicted. But that is what I'm going to work on - becoming unaddicted.
I hope your PCP can help you deal with the depression, or get you to someone who can. Depression is nothing to fool around with. And then you may want to get thee to an eating disorder counselor. I will post periodically how my sessions are going.
By the way, I lived in Boca Raton, FL all my life until 1994. I'm now in North Carolina, but have lots of family in Florida. Good luck.
Hugs,
Betsy
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