Honesty?

While pre-op I shared my intentions to have WLS with a precious few. Early post op, when the weight was coming off quickly I usually resorted to some bull**** line like..."I am studying behavior modification." This usually shut people up as they had no idea what the hell I was talking about and likely imagined that I was wearing some sort of shock collar that zapped me when I thought about food. After about a year or so post op I slowly shared the secret to my fast and furious transformation. Letting the cat out of the bag was liberating! So many came out from the closet (the same one I used to eat in) and shared their painful journeys, as well as their desire for WLS. Soon I became the central address for those considering WLS. More recently when asked about my weight loss, I do share my WLS...however after 5 years I am convinced that my "tool" is long gone and my recent success is due to taking a reasonable and strategic approach. So...maybe I am still completely chock full o'bull**** ...having trouble coloring within the lines...what was the question? did I answer it? Karen

Honesty vs Dishonesty.....I feel dishonesty is too strong for what I do....I just choose to be private on some matters with some people. Its the layer affect of my life. I don't think everyone should know everything.....that is for my inner circle and if you aren't part of that then there are some things you will not know about me. In the beginning I told very little people about my WLS even my Mom didn't know until a week before I went for surgery. I just don't give a rat's asp what people think about my decisions because they are my decisions. I got me here I was getting me out of there...425 was a number that I never want to see again. I gave lots of people the info that I had gallbladder out in the beginning..technically I did so in all fairness it was not a lie or dishonest. I only spoke of part of the story. Sorta like a fairy tale. Have you ever read a fairy tale that made you sad??? I haven't. Its because they are there to make us happy. No one minded the tale so that is where I leave it most of the time at the gall bladder removal. It was not until the great weight started rolling off so quick that people started to say things but I still kept to the same story and stated I was eating and exercising better these days. I think a few of them thought I had cancer. One person made that reference to me. I am still giving them part of the story and sticking to the fairy tale theme. I still don't say too much to many people. I guess I haven't changed. I only give people a little insight to the real me...Its the inner circle protection I guess. What I do for me really does not affect others. I had to lose 213 lbs not my friends. Most of them probably could drop 30 lbs and be normal. When I look at you and see the size 10 wishing for the size 5 I find it hard to tell my tale because at 425 lb I was just plain miserable and closing in on life expiration. If I was the size 10 I think I would not be as miserable. That person still fits into society and no one points and says I don't want to look like that.....Most of the time people are wishing for the 10. I know I wish to see a 10. Will I probably not but its nice to have a dream. Let people believe what they want...does thier believes change you? NO. So tell your life story the way you want...Remember its YOUR LIFE! Debbie

Your statement reminds me of the old saying about prayer requests as being simply gossip recast as concern: "Oh we really need to pray for (Insert Victim's name), because ......." Nowhere Man/PH/Jay

Up north its quite a bit different. People only go by one name rather than 2 or 3. Nowhere Man/PH/Jay

I actually only have a first name and a last name and both are only 3 characters in length. I was always to first to get done filling in my name on standardized tests, being sure to fill on all of the circles with a number 2 pencil and not making any stray marks. Nowhere Man/PH/Jay (but you can call me JayBob)

Myself, I have always been completely honest about how and why I'm losing weight. I had told everyone about my WLS long before I had it....heck I even chat about it with salespeople in boutiques because they always ask why I don't know my size There are a few reasons for me to be honest about it, other than the main fact that I'm open, honest and forthright about everything in my life.... One, I'm very proud of my tool and my decision to get the help *I* needed to succeed at weightloss. and two.... If I talk about it, I may get the right information across to someone who can also benefit from this surgery, either directly, or through someone who knows someone who could use the help. So...my view surely hasn't changed, as I said, I told everyone pre-op and I tell everyone now.... Linda 268/126.5 BELOW GOAL! and.....ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (wedding date set: August 5th, 2006!) **Don't forget to sign my profile Guestbook!**