WLS and Divorce???

I guess I am one of those people who discovered that they did not have to settle for a hubby who treats them like total **** I finally found the person who I wanted to be, and I want to be that person all on my own without a man to tell me how much of a stupid b*tch I am. I thank God every day for showing me how strong I can be. My husband actually moved in with his girfriend two weeks ago. It was a litle hard at first, but now I am grateful that I am not the one who has to put up with his non working lazy self!! Can you believe that I put him through 4 years of college and he does not even have an associates to show for it? He failed out of most of his classes because he was probably too busy with his girlfriend. He always resented me losing my weight because he likes big girls. I was not happy being big, and that always bothered him. Has anyone had any similar experiences?

Nope, I'm one of the really lucky ones. But ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) to ya

Not here either...our problems began LONG before I even contemplated WLS. I AM sorry that you are going through all of this, though! (((Hugs))) ~~Sherry

You will be better off without him but I'm sure it will take a while for you to fully believe it. If it had not been losing weight he would have found some other reason to put you down. I understand cheaters always have to keep the partner off balance by blaming them for the problems. Now get out there and get a life. That will burn him up. Best of luck.

Enjoy being just "you" for awhile. You're so worth it and no one ever needs to settle.

Hi Dawn You DO deserve better. I am glad you have found the strength you need to help you with this. I have been blessed to have a loving and supportive wife that just wanted me to be healthy and happier. So far, so good. I am so sorry things haven't worked out for you, but it sounds like your life will be happier and HEALTHIER without him. If you need to talk, someone is always here on the board....We're here for each other...Have a good night...Cap'n K-Man

First of all congratulations on liking the real you - many have trouble with that. When we like ourselves the rest of our life seems to fall into place. He probably liked big girls because their self esteem was low enough for him to play off of. You did yourself a favor - lost your own weight and a lot of excess baggage to boot! You can now work on you - what you like, who deserves to be with you, learning what you like and don't like and who you really are. I applaud you for being so strong and doing so well. A woman posted tonite about all the names her husband calls her before he goes out to cheat - she thinks this is normal because "who would want to be with someone as big as she is?" My heart went out to her and i can only hope she gets the strength when she gets her self esteem back post op, to realize she deserves better.

Thank you all for your replies. It is nice to know that I always have somewhere to come for support. Here is a ((((((BIG HUG)))))) for each and every one of you!!! Dawn

And just look in the mirror at what a cute thing you are! I've been single a very long time, but spent five years in a "relationship" with someone who didn't appreciate what he had in me enough to give me the only thing I asked of him: some of his time. After I recuperated fromthe TT, and after giving him plenty of advance warning, gave him one more chance and he still fell flat on his a$$. Booted him down the road. Both of us are gonna go out there and get ourselves APPRECIATED!