My Response To A Post About The Main Board.

RE: what is up with with main board Response from Jeannie Boyer at 9:56 AM PST on 10/17/2005 Kissimmee, FL - RNY (07/08/2003) I very seldom get involved w/these kinds of threads. I like to think that I am an open, honest and encouraging person. I admit when I fail, but am quick to get back up and get back in the race. I'm NOT perfect and never claim to be. I also don't want to be codled (sp)? when I keep going back to the same ways of dealing/coping. I don't always want to hear I understand and it's alright. I want the tough love. I want to hear that I worked to hard to get where I am and that it's not worth the taste of stuffing some forbidden food (heck even alowable food) down my throat to deal and cope w/lifes problems. I need to hear that it's NOT alright to sabotage my eating plan. I need to hear that no one else is to blame for my poor choices. I choose to put the food in my mouth to numb and no one else is to blame. I know the right and wrong ways of dealing w/emotions. It's too easy to blame others for our mistakes, short comings, failures and poor choices. This way we don't have to own up to anything, therefore being accountable. I have found that this board/forum is full of people who are upfront and open w/their success's and failures more than those who aren't. You made a statement that EVERYONE here acts as if we NEVER make a mistake. I can't disagree w/you more. I read the posts whenever I can and I feel that people are more open about their struggles than anywhere else on OH. We grads haven't arrived. We are an on going work in progress. I would say not even a handful give that impression. You than corrected yourself in another post saying "SOME" of us. The bottom line is that now "SOME' are being attacked for their thoughts on matters that bother them. Isn't this the same thing that they are being accused of. PLEASE, let's keep this forum/board like no other. I'm not saying 'Perfect', but without attacks. I'm very disappointed that I'm reading these posts lately. Someone once said it will be only a matter of time before this happens on here too. Sad to say, but it has. I just hope that we can all get things back into perspective and keep this board a safe place to be. Like Rodney King said "Can't we all just get along?" Seriously, we know that we take a chance when someone asks for a reply that if we don't give most of them what they want to hear, than we will get flamed. It's a shame that some are taken as mean spirited. I feel that no matter how it is worded, if it doesn't agree w/what they want to hear, then it will be taken as an attact. They will find out one day if they don't comply to their surgeons protocol, than they will have to pay the price dearly. Here's to helping one another and being supportive. Jeannie PS Didn't take the time to proof read. Excuse the errors. Thanks!

Jeannie First of all..I stand by what I said..and I will repeatedlyu say it over and over again. We're not talking about giving so called tough love to people who are 2 years post..we're talking about newbies, had you read the thread through you'd have noticed that. IF you are the kind of person who needs someone to kick them in the hiney so that you dont replase into bad habits..then that is fine for YOU..not everyone needs that. Not everyone is on the fence and in danger of gaining back 150 pounds.,..some of us are quite secure and can have control..I'm almost 6 years postop, I dont require someone to babysit me, or tell me what I need to do..i'm quite capable of doing that for myself. Last I checked, we were having an adult discussion, noone is beating anyone up..we can express ourselves and our opinions, yhou made it sound worse than it is. Even Sherry & I are gonna eat pumpkin pie what i'm getting at is that some of you think the way you do things are the right and only way..and some of us dont agree and think that more kindess and less self righteousness is needed..does that mean we're enemies? Not at all..does it mean we have a difference of opinion..you bet..but thats just how people are. Like I said..if you give people carte blanche to tell you what you need to do..then by all means enjoy..lots of us are not that dependant Have a great day!

"Even Sherry & I are gonna eat pumpkin pie." I DID manage to talk you into it, didn't I?