SMACK! - WHO'DA THUNK
You AND Delores managed to get her 'dander up', though. 
She really needs to put a disclaimer on her future posts...something like "opinions wanted; but, NOT if they are in disagreement with mine". 
~~Sherry 
Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can.
I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed.
I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery.
Bless you all,
Fran
OK, I admit it. I couldn't help myself. I guess I DO feel like I have to yell FIRE!!! FIRE!!! when I see smoke and flames!! And so I posted to that original thread and yes, the original poster made it very clear she didn't want my permission to eat candy.
Well, she must've wanted something - condoning her actions, validation, agreement, etc. - because she posted for some reason.
I have a friend who thought (by the way, she's a nurse!) that at 3 WEEKS out, a good choice would be chocolate covered graham crackers!! My whole life, I will never forget reading that email. We met for vacation just a few weeks ago and she's now about 10 months out. She made poor choices each and every day we were on vacation, from ordering dessert, to having alcohol, to eating the chocolates left in the hotel on the pillow, to trying samples of peanut brittle that were offered her....
I hope she doesn't stumble across this post, but if she does, she needs to remember that I did not act like the food police when we were on vacation, but I made pretty good choices and I question hers. I'm not sure what she's teaching herself. She ate quite a few carbs as well, and I confess I ate more bread on vacation with her than I had in the past 12 months! Now, I'm talking about very small amounts, but I had eaten no bread at all and now that she's gone, I haven't had any more of it! Protein first, not bread.
I was ready for this surgery and I think she thought she could use this tool to eat the same old stuff, but in smaller portions. I have NO idea what my friend, or this other original poster, is going to do when the ability to eat more comes back!!!
Jan
Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can.
I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed.
I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery.
Bless you all,
Fran
I was talking to someone from my support group last night who has lost 100 lbs at 2 years, but still needs to lose another 60 lbs. We all know that it would be a miracle for her to lose the last 60 lbs at this point. She was saying she felt the surgery had failed her. I know her history from the support group, so I know she failed to use her tool. She was talking about going back to the surgeon to see if he could figure out why the surgery didn't work for her.
I like this person but I couldn't listen to her moan and groan another minute about the surgery failing her. I ask her to be honest with herself and then tell me if she had followed the rules. Of course she couldn't say yes because she was one of those who never exercised, ate sweets, loads of carbs, drinking with her meal, etc. from day 1 after surgery. There was always another excuse. Excuse my attitude but I wanted to shake her. I tried very hard not to let her know my feelings, but I did make her admit that she had not done her part to make the surgery work.
I was honest in saying I didn't think she would lose the rest of the weight at this point, but if she just didn't regain she could consider herself a success. I do think she is successful since she had gone from very bad health to being healthy.
Why do people still think this surgery is a free ride? Some seem to think we can continue to eat as we always ate and lose to a size 4. Most of the people I know *****ached goal and stayed there worked the program.
Excuse my rant but your post made me think about that conversation again. The one on the board you referred to in your post will probably another one like my friend who thinks they need a revision at 2 years.
I wish everybody could get that this is all about a lifestyle change, not just surgery.
Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can.
I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed.
I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery.
Bless you all,
Fran
We are here to help people like you. Those that have the "want to" to succeed. My problem with the gal and her chocolate was that she compared her 70 calorie candy bar to a 70 calorie piece of meat and said she had "worked" her candy into her program. We will no doubt hear from her about a year from now when she weighs two or three hundred pounds again. Prayers being said for a good surgery and recovery for you.
Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can.
I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed.
I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery.
Bless you all,
Fran
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