SMACK! - WHO'DA THUNK

I just want to slap my head into the wall. Somebody catch me before I injur myself. I just read on the main board a woman who's 3 months post op and just can't stand to not have a mini-candy bar. I saw some really good responses on there and some others that just make me I wanted to respond but didn't think I could be as eloquent or in your face as some of you were to her. I'm so sad to say that with her carefree attitude as it is this far out she's going to be one that fails...sigh... some people's kids hu? (side bar - I'm NO ANGEL)

Hey Jane--that is how I feel about our grads board too. Oh--abrasive and abrupt--that maybe comes from our "yankee" upbringing.

Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can. I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed. I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery. Bless you all, Fran

Okey doke I had to browse on over to the MB to check out the post you were referring to. My hands got twitchy, I clicked on reply, started to type and stopped. I love Suzy's answer (especially knowing what an addict she is), but it really is just a waste of energy. I just REALLY hate seeing posts like that and all the agreement. I am no saint--far from it, but I have to say eating a small candy bar didn't once enter my mind at three months post-op. I think I thought I would collapse and die if I ate something like that. LOL

Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can. I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed. I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery. Bless you all, Fran

Good luck to you Fran. I hope your surgery will go well. The first days are really hard, but it definitely gets better. I remember being shocked at how hard it was to even take small sips. For me warm water went down much easier than cold. But crushed ice/snow cones went down well too. It is sometimes so easy that we forget that that it is important to learn new healthy habits from the beginning. sounds like you are in a great state of mind. Best wishes.

That is a good one....the other one that made me go "Huh?" ......someone who gets the "shakes" once in a while and didn't know what they were from...Most answers said low sugar....yes...true...but the thing that got me was the advice on what to eat when you get the shakes.....two reeses cups!!!!!! Nice way to make your sugar level spike and then crash....not to mention the dumping

Let me start by saying that I am not a WLS Grad but I was scanning the various messageboards and came across this one. I'd like to assure you all that not all newbies or pre-ops agree with this young lady. I am scheduled for surgery on Thursday, Oct. 20th. I came to this site to learn and gain knowledge about how to make this surgery work for me. I AM TIRED OF BEING OBESE AND I WANT TO FEEL BETTER AND BE HEALTHY. I intend to use this tool to my advantage and lose every pound I can. I also have a sweet tooth and know that sweets are my red flag. I intend to stay completely away from them, not even allowing myself a "funsize" candy bar. I KNOW one will lead to two and two will lead to three and pretty soon, I'll be justifying eating a whole bag. I am not going there. Please be patient and understand that some of us newbies and pre-ops are here to learn and succeed. I thought all you guys were being too hard on this gal until I read the entire thread and I quickly changed my mind after reading it. People will do what they do and there's no way to teach them otherwise. BUT, I did learn from it and hope not to make the same mistake. I really want to succeed at this. It's my last chance. I hope and pray through my hard work and the surgeon's experienced hand that I can someday reach my goal and have a healthier, happier life. I hope all you wish that for me too. Pray for me to have a successful, uncomplicated surgery and recovery. Bless you all, Fran

None of us have or will sail through recovery without a little stray here and there but remember - some people do fail. I met a 600+ pound woman in my docs office before my surgery. Turns out she had the surgery once before in the 70s. Yikes. I hope the second one stuck. Jeff M.

I'm so glad you posted this...cuz I was starting to think that she may have a point... just a few kisses and a snickers? I swear, the devil lives in candy!!!! I try so hard to keep that crap out of me..... and it amazes me that people really think it's ok to not change their lifestyles..... hello... I was literally dying from eating too much candy (I was a diabetic!!) and even that didn't stop me from binging on that stuff..... The surgery really is just a tool.... it ain't magic!!! It's good to be on the old timers board even if I am only `14 mos. out..... Help me... I still need to lose about 20 more pounds!!! Laurie - minus 166!!