All mixed up and need a swift kick....

Hi guys, long time no post. I have been kind of in lurk mode and need to get back with it. I lost my Dad a little over two weeks ago and boy have I hit the crapper when it comes to my eating. Emotional eating is taking over. I was doing sooo well and everytime I think about things I want to accompany it with a cupcake or something. Its really hard to take care of the paperwork, my mom, my sister and brother, and all the arrangements, and still try to do for myself. I think tomorrow I am going to kick myself in the tail, (like my Dad would have) and try to start replacing my eating with activity. I think that this is the hardest thing that I have ever been through and I think I am turning to food as my comfort item because if anything Dad and I ate together.....LOL Hiding out with my doritos and snacks are not going to do anything but make me feel worse....... (there I said it) Ok, so onward and I am going to redirect my feelings in a more positive way. Protein, water, vits, and exercise. Wish me luck.... I am going to need it... Val~

Hey Val, Best of luck! I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. These are trying times. Think of yourself, though, and also of how you dad would want you to remain healthy. Good luck! Wendy

Val--I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Losing a parent is just really hard. I hope that you have wonderful memories to carry with you. I'm wishing you luck on your eating efforts. I have to admit that I never really bought into the whole emotional eating thing until recently. I've been dealing with some health issues and one day after having a test I went to do grocery shopping. I spent more time browsing in the bakery department than I had in ages. Take care and good luck

Oh Val, I'm so sorry for your loss. Keep out of lurk mode and visit, we'll help ya.

It's hard to lose someone we love and so easy to revert back to the comfort we use to find in food all the time. I did the same thing when my mom's body was shutting down a few months ago. Then, like you I kicked myself in the butt and said ok you've done this for three days it's time to get serious again. I went on a all protein diet for 3 days to get rid of the carb addiction, and stayed true to my food/exercise program until I reached goal. I do wish you luck and know you can do this starting today. My motto as a post-op has been "Food is for nutrition, not comfort, not entertainment". Funny thing is I told myself that for so long I now believe it and find it normal to think about calories, protein, nutrition BEFORE I eat anything. I'm not saying I never eat anything just because it taste good now that I've reached maintenance, but it's rare even now. It's so wonderful to be released from food addiction. I never want to go back to those days. YOU CAN DO THIS...........TODAY IS THE DAY! Best of luck!

here is a hug ((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))sorry for your loss perhaps a long walk and spend the time remembering fun things you and your dad did together, it may help you feel closer to him without the numbing effect of food.... Gratitude is my Attitude Amanda S VG-DS October 2001 highest >350/342 start of wls journey/ 156@goal and after ps

I am so sorry for your loss, but you don't need a swift kick - you need some TLC, just not in the area of food. It's so hard though. We always seem to reach for food during emotional times. Just know we are here to help you through this tough time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Betsy C.