How do I respond to people who tell me I don't need to lose any more weight?

I am 12 pounds away from the goal I set for myself. I will be three years out next Friday. I started at 206.6, now weigh 122 and want to be at 110. If I still think I need to lose more after that, I will. People are ALWAYS telling me I don't need to lose any more. My family (hubby and grown kids) never tell me that, it's other people. How do you respond to remarks like that, when that's all you hear? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

I have found the best way is just make weight an off limits discussion. I don't bring it up and if they do, just smile and change the subject. I had some one emphatically tell me not to lose and more weight when I was weighing in about 50 pounds heavier than I am now and my response to them was that the last time I weighted this much I was 9 months pregnant with my first child and I would hope to not spend the rest of my life at a 9 months pregnant weight. If you want to be mean you could ask them their weight and maybe their age too, & tell them Oh I thought you were older! Now I rarely discuss my weight with anyone but my DH, or my Dr. Or someone who is interested in bariatric surgery and wants information.

Pam-Congrats on doing such a great job on your weight loss. I just don't discuss my weight with anyone. People are always asking e how much I have lost etc. I tell them I don't track it. To me it is a personal thing--and I just won't go there.

My standard answer is "oh the weight loss part of the program is over". If they have the balls to comment on my weight, I have the balls to lie to them. It's just easier than having the same old conversation almost daily with one person or another. Truthfully I think the weight loss portion is over for me even though I'd still like to lose another 10-15 lbs. I can eat strictly protein (800-1000 calories) and not lose weight now days. I exercise like a freak in addition to the protein & calorie restriction. I've lost half my body weight so I shouldn't be complaining.

I'm there too. That is the first thing people say. You aren't losing any more weight are you? I want to say "it is none of your business" but I don't! I tell them my goal is ** and if I get there I get there. If not I will be content in size 6-8 that I am in now. And I smile and leave their presence! I always say my labs are great, my doctor is with me and I'm okay!

Oh, HELLO!! I get sick and tired of this conversation, too!! Now when people tell me I don't need to lose any more weight I just agree and that shuts them up. How on earth would they know if I lost 10 lbs. or 2 or none?? And it really IS between you and your doctor! Jan

Gosh Pam! I know how you must be feeling. I'm 5' 1" and started out at 225 lbs. I literally worked my booty off and reached my perfect BMI by 9 months. Everyone kept telling me to STOP losing and start eating more! Well, I didn't listen and I dropped approx. another 19 lbs by the first week of my 12th month post-op. Oh gosh....That was when I really took a hard look at myself in the mirror and realized that I needed to stop losing. I didn't want to though... cuz I felt 'in control' as long as I kept seeing the numbers on the scale go down. Yep, I understand that wasn't a healthy mental behavior and I got a grip on it. I'm not saying that I don't wish that I could have kept seeing the numbers go down on the scale....but I am telling you that I realized there is a time that we all need to stop and accept ourselves at a certain weight instead of sliding into an alternate self destruct mood. You're beautiful!!! Just look into the mirror. Donna

Pam, I recieved your reply to me...but I tried to respond with the following and your Yahoo account tells me that I'm not an approved replier. So here's my response: Okay....I totally understand that you need to reach a certain number to be satisfied. If that's what 'cha need to do...then GO for it and I'm right here to support you! Oh...and btw: If you think it's hard to find a size 4 ---then just try to find a size 1 junior petite! ROFL If I didn't stop losing...then I was gonna have to start shopping in the 12 year old section and I'm not tooooo hip on wearing Power Puff girl clothes! LOL 'specially since I'm 48 years old. Smooches Babe! Donna

Donna, I don't know what your previous email conversation consisted of, but I think as the numbers go down, it gets increasingly hard to find the sizes. I would have been happy to stop at size 6 and mostly that's what I wear, but there are many size 4s that fit nicely and they ARE hard to find. I can only imagine what a size 1 junior petite must be like!!! Geez! I'm going to be 48 any minute now, and I also don't want to wear Power Puff clothes!! Jan

I still have people ask if I am still losing weight, these are people from my church though and remember I had been deathly ill about 5 years ago and they truely were worried about me when I started to lose weight, I also did not tell anyone I had wls. its none of thier business. well last week, a member who is a guy, came up and told me I looked great but also asked if I was still losing weight!!! I told him "no" that I was just wearing clothes that fit better now. Donna