Under Goal weight and worried

I am new to the site I am a little over 18 months out. I lost a total of 205 lbs. I am scared when the scale fluxuates even a little. I have been diagnosed as a atypical or EDNOS anorexic. I didn't realize all the head trips post goal weight. I wonder if anyone else out there has the same issues? I had someone tell me two days ago that it looked like I had gained a little weight, actually a compliment, but it sent me into a tail spin. Stacey

Stacey, I understand. My surgeon asked me to just eat 3 meals a day of whatever I WANTED to eat just don't over eat (i.e. measure out or separate what I'm going to eat, eat that, wait 20 minutes and eat more then if hungry ... allow only 1 20 minute 'Am I full' test per meal). Following his instructions, I found that I COULD eat 3 meals a day and still lose or maintain (depending on what I chose) weight. We have to adjust ourselves and our thinking. We are NOT fat anymore. We are normal. Convince yourself in your mind and your brain will follow. It's anorexia in reverse, basically. There is a wonderful book called Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. Not only is it about self-image but can also teach you to practice things in your mind. The original was written in the 60s and the examples may be slightly outdated but still apply. A second book, Psycho-Cybernetics 2000, was pulbished after Maltz's death by his foundation with the approval of his wife. I have not read the second but I suspect it's as good or better than the first. Maltz was a plastic surgeon. He found that by changing someone's outside appearance, there personality would change ... basically because they thought of themselves differently. In one example in the first book, he told a person he had performed a facial procedure but didn't let them look. He told them they looked better and sent them out. The person behaved differently, more confident and comfortable and people reacted differently to the person and treated him/her differently. The patient was amazed when he/she found the change was ONLY internal! Your mind is a powerful thing ... this book WILL help you if you read it and apply the principles. Good Luck! Julie

Are you in any kind of therapy? It is crucial that you get some help. It is not so easy to just "convince" youself that you are ok espcially when you know you are not. sometimes it takes the help of a qualified professional. While my weight is stable and I am at a healthy weight for me I struggle daily with issues related to food, eating, weight and body image. therapy is hard, but helpful.

I wanted to recommend a book I am reading. the name is "How Much Does your Soul Weigh?"

I wanted to add that I *too* am a huge advocate of psychotherapy! You've got to get to the root of the issue to address it forever, once and for all.